Need Advice

[dpoon]

I just want to warn you that this is going to be pretty long.....


but to start off what im going to say is that there is a girl that i care about so much but she infromed me she wants to be friends

a little backround about the story, i first met this girl while i was at work, and the 1st time we both met, we just instantly clicked. we would talk about video games, movies, etc and it felt great, until i found out she was married. so i thoguht we would just be friends, and just being friends didnt work out to well. we both started haning out more and started to have feelings for each other. as we both shared our feelings about each other, she then tells me that she is unhappy with her marriage. and tells me that she has been unhappy with him for the past 2-3 years and how she was being misteated. but the thing is that her husband went away for a week and then we started to get real close, and she doesnt know what to do. she told me that in the past she thoguht about leaving him, but i informed her that she should go back to her husband and think things over.

a few months later, i quit my job, but we even started having more feeling for each other amd them she actually left him. again she did not leave because she wanted to start a relationship with me, but she left do to being mistreated and she stated that i opened her eyes to make her realize that there are other guys that are much better out there. so she left and we both started to have this great thing going on between us. i would see her everyday at lunch, talk to her on the phone everynight for hours, go bowling, movies, mall, etc. she even said stuff like "i think we would be great together" "i like and care for you so much" "that im the greatest and nicest guy she ever met." "no one has ever done this much for me" etc. we had plans on taking a weekend and going to orlando and maybe skiing in the winter. i dont want to get into detail or anything, but i was the only other persona she has been with exepct her husband and she was also the 2nd person i been with.

everything was going great until i went away 3 weeks ago to see my brother for a week. even while we werent together, we would consintally be intouch with each other on the phone. i get back from my brother wedding and i dont know what happned but she asked me "where do you think we stand?' so i said "well i would like to think that we are dating or i do see us as a couple thats building on a relationship" from there she informed me she just wants to be friends. but she still wanted to holding hands, hugging and kissing. she told me she doesnt want to be in a relationship right now. and that really hurt me. i asked her if there was someone else, and she said no. i asked her if she would go on dates with other guys and she said yes, but wouldnt want to be in a relationship with anyone right now. but when she told me that she really broke my heart, and i felt like crying.

now i told her that i was fine with being friends, so we just hung out a couple of days ago and went back to her place. nothing happened, but there was alot of flirting on going on. its like i wanted stuff to happen, but i kept saying no to myself. but she kept rubbing my arm, rubbing up my leg into my boxers, she even actually climbed ontop of me, but yet we didnt kiss or anything. she told me that she wanted me right then and there but she didnt do it, she infromed me she wanted to kiss me several times but she was trying to resist me.

so anyways, i really care for this girl so much and she tells me the same. now i dont want to lose her, but i dont know what i should do. and sorry if this was a little lenghty but it wouldnt have been right with out the complete story

[Mish]

Wow, what a story

"i asked her if she would go on dates with other guys and she said yes" by dpoon

Okay, this is a gigantic problem and obstacle to your relationship with her right there. The sad part is that there is really nothing you can do about it and she just has to make up her damn mind. Now, here is a deal which i think will either make you or break you. Come back to her and tell her that you are perfectly fine with you being just friends and her seeing other people as long as she knows that you have the right to do the same too. Try to find some grils get some contact numbers and build up some female companionship around you to let her know that you are not kidding. At the same time, let her know that you are only doing this because you are after a relationship and comittment (If not with her then with someone else). If she decides to continue in her silly ways, i think it's best that you move on. If she decides to go with the relationship with you then make sure she UNDERSRTANDS entirely that this means nothing but the monogomous relationship for the two of you.

Hope above helps, good luck!!!