When a LOVE TRIANGLE isn't a LOVE TRIANGLE

[1eyeddeer]

Help!

Im a very grounded, stable 43 year old man. I am divorced for 5 years from my ex wife (44 yrs old) who i have a great relationship with, we are best friends not intimate at all, we don't spend a lot of time together but we have a great relationship and we have no children from our former marriage.

My current partner of 8 months i fell in love with the moment i saw her, she is amazing. Im faithful to her and give her no reason to think otherwise she is 27yrs old thinks I am amazing and feels the same way. I am a lucky man.

Here is the messy part.

My ex has asked me for my sperm to father a child via IVF. A year ago she split from her fiancee and she is now out of time or possibly too late being 44yrs old. She wants one shot at it and has asked me as she feels i am her last chance. I love my ex wife as a person and would always be there for her as she would and has been for me. I have agreed to donate my sperm to help her. She realises i am with this other girl and has no ulterior motive at all. Should she fall pregnant I would have a part in the child's life but not as a live in father. I see it as giving a great gift to my best friend, my current partner is absolutely beside herself that i have made this decision. For some perspective I asked her if she would give her egg to her best friend if she asked and she said she would without hesitation. Is there any difference?

I am in need of a neutral perspective from a woman that has just seen the facts as they are written here.

Am i stupid?
Am i ignorant?
Am i completely out of touch?

Im lost and need some advice.

Thanks

[Wakeup]

From my perspective: I would break up with you for having a child with a woman that you once were married to and obviously are still very much emotionally attached to. I would let you have one another and raise your child as a family unit.

As for the part where I would donate my egg. That would be a total double standard and I'd not do that either simply because it would be a slap in the face to my new partner just as your donation is a slap in your current girlfriends face. I have no idea why you would think that what you have done would be acceptable. Particularly since you didn't even discuss the situation with your current partner. You have no respect for her in that regard and why I think you should just remarry the mother of your future child.