the dividing line...

[carpflounder]

So I get this call at work this morning from my gf's mom.
She says that she doesn't know if its appropriate to discuss what she wants to talk about on the phone.

I tell her to go ahead. She says "Now, you know what you do to Angela." . I'm like "you mean how I smoke weed?" She says "Yep"...........

So she tells me about how sad her daughter is about me smoking weed, that she evens cries about it sometimes. She says that she doesn't want to see us break up, but she seriously sees this happening at some point.

I told her that I dont smoke in the house anymore (when Angela is there) and that I do care and that is a sacrifice I make for her. She says that Angela is really sad if she even sees me under the influence of it, or smells one bud tucked away deep in my drawer.

She strongly suggests that I quit.
I'm not ready too.

I'm sh**t out of ideas I dont want to quit, I dont want to break up. Any suggestions?

[TAVS]

Whats with people these days? Too bad, either you make a choice, or you wait for her to make it for you. I think you just need to Man up and talk to her about it and come to a shared solution.

[carpflounder]

I do talk with my gf about it sometimes. What are some examples of shared decisions you could see in this case?

[TAVS]

Anything you both agree to is a shared solution.

You agree to break up
You agree she'll learn to accept your habit
You agree the best solution is for you to stop for her

I have a better idea though....Why dont you just share your views on cheating and then this will be a mute point

[carpflounder]

Anything you both agree to is a shared solution.
You agree to break up
You agree she'll learn to accept your habit
You agree the best solution is for you to stop for her

Thanks. I think I'll sit down with her and tell her that I know that she doesn't like it. That I respect her feelings. That I will continue to smoke outside of the house. That I will keep my weed in the garage instead of my room. That I will wash up after smoking if we are going to cuddle.

I will let her know that I'm aware that she is sad JUST knowing that I smoke and seeing me high. That these are her emotions which she is entitled to feel, and that I wont try to talk her out of her feelings.

Probably easier said then done but I'll sure try.
Thanks for the advice Tavs..and for being the only person alive on this board.

[Asip4u]

You should have a long talk with her and get to the bottom of it. You have to do what's best for everyone. If they feel that strongly about it, you have a choice to make.

[Asip4u]

I will let her know that I'm aware that she is sad JUST knowing that I smoke and seeing me high. That these are her emotions which she is entitled to feel, and that I wont try to talk her out of her feelings.

Probably easier said then done but I'll sure try.
Thanks for the advice Tavs..and for being the only person alive on this board.

dude, that's like saying..."i appreciate for you caring about me however i'm still going to do it"...honestly, i don't think it will do any good.

[chelsee]

it's simple carp, girls are not always going like every thing you do especially when it comes to bad habits. that is why we nag and *****.

[boobaa]

**** the weed and start sniffing some glue!! Gasoline would do better but prizes gone high these days...

[carpflounder]

**** the weed and start sniffing some glue!! Gasoline would do better but prizes gone high these days...

Then she would just gripe about the smell of the glue. Asip4U thats what my gut says too, that I can try, but it just isn't enough.

[shh!]

it's simple carp, girls are not always going like every thing you do especially when it comes to bad habits. that is why we nag and *****.

Girls should not nag and b*tch. They should decide whether or not they are willing to tolerate said behavior and act accordingly.

[TAVS]

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Thanks for the advice Tavs..and for being the only person alive on this board.

AKA: The most pathetic LF member

[carpflounder]

AKA: The most pathetic LV member

No really, thanks for the advice dude.

[Tone]

I have a better idea though....Why dont you just share your views on cheating and then this will be a mute point

ha!

I lol'd

[mini696]

Not smoking in the house in not a sacrifice.

What should you do?... Quit.