He said he misses me, but he took me for granted when I was there for him?

[RealLifeSeeker]

Long story short during the last few months of our relationship my ex started to take me for granted. I brought up these concerns, at 1st he was freaked out that I would leave him and apologized. Nothing changed, the feeling came back and I brought up my doubts about our future because we wanted to get married, but he wasn't willing to pull his crap together so he could establish himself (he has no goals at all, wants to live day by day and hopes what he wants to do will just come to him), I have been planning what I want to do for quite awhile. When I approached him it was bad, he took it as me wanting to ruin our "great" relationship. W/a heavy heart I decided to end the relationship as I saw he didn't appreciate me or wanted to make an effort for me. He even tried to say I left him for someone else (I left him so I wouldn't have a miserable future). My heart is shattered, we talked once on the phone since and he messaged me on FB. One day he is telling me how I broke his heart and now he tells me he misses a lot and wishes that this could have turned out differently. I'm not stupid, seems to me like he hasn't found anything better and misses me taking care of him. Although I broke up w/him, the breakup has caused me a lot of hurt, I miss him so much I feel sick to my stomach and I have been crying on and off ever since the break up.

[Wakeup]

Sorry you're hurting but take heart... with zero contact (and that means no facebook stalking either) you'll be past this in due time. You're going to miss one another, you've been in each others lives and it takes time to rehab from the habit of having him there.

You will hurt less when you accept that you've done the right thing because its better to do it now rather then when you're married and he's not changed. You're basically incompatible in life goals and basic sensibilities so you need to be free in order to find someone who is more in sync with you.


Feel better soon.

[RealLifeSeeker]

I am healing day to day, I still miss him a lot because I did really love him and care about him. I do not plan on contacting him, seeing him or anything.