Ifell out of love with the sweetest girl ever (Please Help)

[Maxim1122]

Hello,
I'm new to this forum so I had no clue which category I should put this.
Anyways I'll cut to the story. So I've dated this girl for a little bit less than 6 months, we go to the same school (she's 17 and I'm 18 ). So you know how in a relationship there is the one who cares just a bit more, who is always thinking about the next date, and always there to apologize first even on the smallest thing. So I was that guy about 3 weeks ago and I was madly in love with her. 3 weeks ago, we went to the movies and it was really fun there together. After I came back home and she sent me a message I suddenly had a weird anxiety feeling. Somehow I realized that I'm starting to fall out of love with her. I understood that by noticing how I get weird anxiety feeling whenever I think about her, our future together, and I began getting more anxious when I realized I might settle down with her.

So we talked about it a lot, and we eventually agreed to go on a break. We were supposed to be on a break for 2 weeks, until I made the mistake of my life and sent her a massage about 1 week later that 2 weeks is too long without talking with her. So we talked and long story short we came back together. And right when we came back together I noticed how cute she was, she was super caring, and she started planning our dates, and always sent me a goodnight and good morning massages, and she told me to not rush into saying I love you, or express anything and she seemed really understanding. And to be honest I felt like crap. While she was cute to me, I couldn't even send her I love you by text, and I even thought a lot about breaking up during the break. But I wasn't sure about it. I'll get back to that later. I asked her why she was being so cute to me and she said she though about breaking up to, and then she realized she couldn't live with the fact she's going to lose me. That was the sweetest thing someone ever said to me, since she's not the touchy feely person, she didn't say stuff like that often.

So the reason I wasn't sure about breaking up is the reason I can't live with the fact I'm going to lose her, I mean she's so awesome, she's super smart, she does great at school, she's really pretty and attractive, she's a great story teller and it's never boring wth her, she's hilarious and the sex is so good, she knows all the spots. and one more reason that it's even harder to decide is a thing that happened today. Today at school we had a tiny argument, so she felt bad and went to a special store and bought my favorite chocolates. She waited 2 hours by my front door and it started pouring really badly and her battery died and she said she went home and left the chocolates at my front door, and she's very sick right now. I noticed how hard she was trying to make me fall for her again and the fact she's even giving me time and not rushing me into saying her anything even after today tells me how special she is.

So my questions are:
Why did I fell out of love from her so suddenly, it came out of the blue. And considering the fact that the day those feelings came we had great fun together.
Is breaking up the only solution here? I really don't want to lose her and want to keep her in my life, so if breaking up really is the only solution, can I somehow break up with her so she would know I need to be single for just a bit right now and is it possible that we might get back together someday? and if yes, how should I break up with her so there will be a chance for us to get back together one day?
PS: off topic, but it kind of bothers me the fact she lost her virginity to her ex when she just turned 14. I figured out by calculating the number of condoms left in her 12 pack that she said her ex bought her, and the did it 7 times. She told me that they were 8 months together and the started doing it in the last 2 months of the relationship, and it kind of bothers me even more that she was 14 and had more sex than I ever had in my entire life (I'm 18 ). 7 times in 2 months for a 14 year old...

Anyways, sorry for this post being extremely long,
BUT THANKS SO MUCH TO THE PEOPLE THAT TAKE TIME AND HELP ME WITH THIS, I'M SO GRATEFUL FOR ALL OF THE HELPERS!!!!!

[smackie9]

The honeymoon stage of your relationship has come to an end. This stage is the infatuation stage, you both are crazy about each other, you think of marriage, start naming your kids or whatever future plans....you feel this is the one and it's going to be forever. All that is, is a chemical called Dopamine. it's being released in the brain making you feel on top of the world. Well after about 6 months to a year or so, it shuts off and you see what is left. Some get lucky and have a deeper sense of love, some feel nothing. It's plain to see that you both have lost the chemistry between you and there is no deep love to follow up.

You both are feel separation anxiety that is all. It feels like love, but it's the fact you two miss that intensity you had, and think it will be there when you get together again. It's not really there now is it. You can't force feelings, it either happens or it doesn't. Just have to let go and give it more time. maybe better suited to be good friends not lovers.

[Maxim1122]

The honeymoon stage of your relationship has come to an end. This stage is the infatuation stage, you both are crazy about each other, you think of marriage, start naming your kids or whatever future plans....you feel this is the one and it's going to be forever. All that is, is a chemical called Dopamine. it's being released in the brain making you feel on top of the world. Well after about 6 months to a year or so, it shuts off and you see what is left. Some get lucky and have a deeper sense of love, some feel nothing. It's plain to see that you both have lost the chemistry between you and there is no deep love to follow up.

You both are feel separation anxiety that is all. It feels like love, but it's the fact you two miss that intensity you had, and think it will be there when you get together again. It's not really there now is it. You can't force feelings, it either happens or it doesn't. Just have to let go and give it more time. maybe better suited to be good friends not lovers.

Yes, it is the honeymoon stage fading. And I think I have been over analyzing things for the past 3 weeks. Should I start accepting that things will be like that for the rest of the relationship, if yes, what should I start acknoweledging? Am I just addicted to that intense feeling of being in love in the honeymoon stage and that honeymoon stage just masked the fact we didn't have any chemistry between us? Should we take another break or breakup in order for me to figure out if I really did love her and she's a missing part of my life or she was just a person who will satisfy my feelings of needing that love during the honeymoon stage?

Thanks again for your time. 😊

[smackie9]

Breakup and move on.