I'm SO confused!!!!

[Jcoops]

Hi everyone - this isn't a massive problem compared to some on here and I'm not totally stressing over it but your perspectives would be greatly appreciated!

I'm a male, early 30's and have gf. I play in a band and we have female singer, the rest guys. She is dating another member of the band.

My issue is that when we have rehearsals or a gig, I find I can't stop thinking about her. I got to sleep thinking about her and wake up thinking about her. It's not like this when I haven't seen her as much. It's like she gets into my head! This will sound crazy but even when I pass somebody in the store and they have the same perfume as her I kinda like it cos it reminds me of her!

I don't think I'm interested in her romantically but I'm confused cos I think about her quite a lot.

What's going on guys?!

[melancholia]

It sounds to me like you are very interested in her. Either that, or you are seeing certain qualities she has that you aren't finding in your current relationship. Are you and your girlfriend having problems?

[Jcoops]

It sounds to me like you are very interested in her. Either that, or you are seeing certain qualities she has that you aren't finding in your current relationship. Are you and your girlfriend having problems?

Kind of, arguing off and on, the usual. This girl is very laid back and is always positive and having fun so she is an attractive personality on general. I don't necessarily feel it when we're together and we've rarely talked 1 on 1 but we do seem to be on same wavelength. It's more that I think about her a lot after I've been with her. I kinda want to be aware on how I'm feeling cos actually falling for her is gonna cause pain all over the place!!