So, I'm in a bit of a different situation than usual. Background first, my ex and I broke up shortly after Thanksgiving. She broke up with me saying that she didn't see a future for us. We had a bump in the relationship back in October where I almost broke up with her, but we worked through it and everything was going wonderfully. We were going on dates every week, cooking together, the sex was out of this world and we were actually really freakin' happy. The only thing I can think of that possibly set this in motion was I had to cancel our dinner date for her birthday (it was beyond my control, I had to go to a wake at the last minute). We tried to reschedule it, but we couldn't get our schedules cleared in time before she went on vacation with her family with the holiday coming up. So we said ok, we'll just do this when you get back and celebrate twice as hard. Aaand then she broke up with me while she was away. Now, I know she's seeing someone else and it happens to be a family friend they were on vacation with (Who may I add was emotionally abusing her about 2 weeks before we broke up. Her words, not mine!) If I had to bank on it, I would say she's in a rebound and may have been set up by her family (her mother seemed to like me but wasn't too keen on the fact that I'm not religious). He's not even in the same state. We're in New York and he's up in Vermont.
So post break-up! It was sudden and the holiday season was upon us, which made for a nice distraction. I didn't seem to care at first. I went on with myself like the relationship never happened and I never met her. And then two weeks ago or so rolled around and I realized, crap, I miss her a shit ton. Funny enough, she broke no contact the next day and told me she hoped we could still be friends and that she missed me. Ignored it. The following week, I messaged her and firmly told her I knew she left me to see someone else (my assumption at least) and that I still cared about her, but needed some time to resolve my feelings for her as I was sad, angry, confused etc. She responded assuring me she didn't leave me for the other guy and that things clicked for them after the fact (don't know if that's true, but I don't really care at this point). She told me she still loved me (I know she can be saying this loosely, but I'm just throwing it out there) and thinks about me often (which I can believe, considering she often checks my Facebook and Instagram) and would give me my space. I also ignored that. Then yesterday happened. I couldn't take it anymore, I was missing her too much and it hurt too much to handle. So I messaged her and made a playful joke. Next thing I know, we're talking for an hour. She asked me if I really was upset by what had happened. Ignored it. Plot twist! She asks me to get coffee with her on my birthday. I of course said yes (this won't be happening for another week), we talked for a bit more and that was that. She seemed really excited and was genuinely happy to hear from me. It was kind of uplifting, which was a nice turn around from feeling like crap the day before.
So now the fun part. Can I win her back? From my past experience, I would normally say no but I haven't been in a situation exactly like this before. I'm usually the one to crack and break no contact first, not the other way around! Is there anything that I can do? I haven't been around the block too many times, but this one doesn't seem hopeless compared to the past where I was 120% shut out. I still have her birthday gift which I would love to give to her (it's a Hobbit journal, she loves LOTR and writing). Only problem is, it has a love letter written in the first page that I wrote back in November covering my feelings for her and how we're gonna kick 2016's ass together (I know, I'm so creative). I could see this being a double edged sword. On one hand, the letter could rekindle her feelings for me but on the other it could do the opposite. If anyone has any advice for me that's been in a similar situation, it would be very appreciated!
Thanks for reading!