Originally Posted by
TheEvilJester
As somebody who also suffers from social anxieties, and also is a bit of a romantic (well... these days I'm beginning to wonder if I need to downgrade that to WAS, because I'm not feeling so positive lately) I can certainly understand your excitement. However, I want to start off my advice by cautioning you with this.....
You don't know if he is your soulmate. You have no way to know that. Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to discount the romantic idea of seeing somebody and somehow you both "just know." I'm just saying, until you get to know him better, you can't really know. Folks like you and I, the most dangerous thing we can do is allow ourselves to fall too hard too fast without at least also engaging our intellectual side to realize that the person may turn out not to be what we think. Take it from somebody who knows from experience, that all too often leads to nothing but hurt.
So, it is fine to allow yourself to be excited and think "Hey! This guy could really be something" but just remind yourself that, for all you know, he could turn out to be a complete creep/jerk. Which isn't to say you don't give him a chance if you find a way to contact him, I'm just saying don't get too ahead of yourself.
That said,
You mentioned you were able to find somebody on social media who is a friend of his. By any chance do you know that person, or is he just another stranger? If you do happen to know him, that could be your in. Have you considered going back to the club a few times here and there to see if maybe he turns up again? Unfortunately, being as he was otherwise a stranger, I'm not sure how else you could hope to reach out to him.
I don't know if this is just me, but I kind of lean towards thinking it would be weird to reach out to some other random stranger (the friend of his you found on social media) to ask them to pass along to him that you want to meet him. Again, if this friend of his actually happens to be your friend too, that would be different, but I didn't get that impression.
Hindsight is always 20/20, so I understand this advice comes too late..... but for future reference, in a situation like that, just give him your phone number. I get that you were leaving, but it only takes a few seconds to jot your number down on a piece of paper, a napkin, or whatever. Or, heck, if no pen or paper were nearby, just ask him to hand you his phone and punch the number in for him. If you were interested in him, why would you not? Heck, when you were making eyes at each other all night, you could have even prepared by finding a pen and piece of paper so you could pass him your number when the chance arose.
Believe me, I of all people know the feeling of being too shy to take that chance, so I do not say any of that meaning to judge or blame you. I understand. I am just hoping to help you rationalize so maybe you don't make that mistake again in the future.
I am sure you are a very wonderful gal that any guy would be lucky to have in his life. Problem is, none of them will ever be able to find that out for themselves if you never give yourself that chance. Good luck to you. I hope you find a way to run into this guy again, but if not just know that there IS somebody out there for you. As far as I am concerned, if you and he were meant to be a thing, you'll find each other again. If you don't, then it was nothing more than a chance occurrence and your true soulmate is still out there looking for you.