How does this love/apology letter sound? (very long post)

[llVIU]

I am not good with words at all, I want your opinion on this. It's gonna be a love letter sent to her. She broke up with me and I want to get back together. The main reason being that "our hobbies differ" but truth is that I was an asshole who did not listen to her and her interests. If I knew, I would've done things that she enjoyed. She's 24 years old



You give me 1000000 times more compliments than all the other people on the planet combined. I felt like the biggest piece of shit in the world, then I met you, and you made me feel like the best person in the world, you make me feel so

incredibly happy. You like my body, voice, the way I act, even my drawings and take interest in the manga story that nobody cares about, as well as my past. You always listen to me with interest. I miss you so much and it makes me so

happy that you miss me. Finally... someone who cares about me. I always felt so comfortable talking to you, being with you, cuddling you, you were the complete opposite compared to anyone else.

You are so incredibly sweet by dealing with all my horrible bullshit, like my room, when I ate meat (I cut down with it about 90%), when I spoke bad to you or your mother (I really want to appologize to her), when I didn't try holding a

proper conversation with you (I didn't even realize, that wasn't my intention). I was a lazy **** who couldn't be bothered to take you out on proper dates by planning things properly, and you sat quietly and enjoyed it all the way. I

made you drive such long ways so many times, I just feel so bad for being such a piece of shit whereas you were so kind and caring. I spoke to you like an asshole and you still loved me. You always swallowed the piss that I gave you and

sat there with me all the way with a smile on your face, because you wanted to make me happy. You did so much effort for me, spoke to me all the time and met up with me so many times while I was acting like an asshole. No other person on

the planet tolerated me so much, nor loved me... but you BOTH tolerated me and loved me. I am so incredibly sorry like you wouldn't believe.

I was going through such terrible times, and you were right there for me and helped me out so much, you have absolutely no idea how helpful you were and how much I appreciate it. I enjoyed every single second with you. Like I said when

the train left when I was going back to Birmingham, I'd rather wait 1 hour in the cold if that meant I could spend another minute with you. Because I love you.

We have tons of interests in common... we like cuddling (VERY important), we both appreciate honesty, we both hate people around us and want to make the world a better place, we like anime, the same type of music, pets, languages (you

also care about writing english properly, and being polite, I like that) and talking about different countries, taking walks and sex (you're such a pervert, I love it)... I'd love to go traveling with you and just go on all the rides in

an amusement park, especially roller coasters... but I was too stupid to do it with you. MUCH better than sitting in a pub all the time, that's for sure. It's such a pity that I got used to sitting inside the house all the time and being

a potato, otherwise I also would've gotten used to being outgoing and traveling, but I am so incredibly poor at the moment! I need to try harder, I will make up for it. Please understand, I never had anyone to go out with, I am still

trying to get used to having a relationship.

You are the cutest and sexiest person in the world, especially when you get horny, it just melts my heart away. I love your nose, beautiful green eyes, their cat like shape, how you use eye liner to give them a nice shape, your natural

blonde straight hair, giant boobs, beautiful girly lips and hands which have such soft skin, and your lovely voice. You even talk in such a calm and sweet manner. I also like that you have no confidence, and have various issues like at

joints, muscle spasms when sleeping, the traumas (which I would've loved to listen to, I wanted to know about important things in your past, I wish I would've been there to protect you and offer you support, I feel so much sympathy for

you. You had such huge struggles and was able to overcome them. You have bad periods (but you still act sweet and deal with them), autism, aspergers syndrome, huge problems with talkig to people, and you pulled through. You also have

several allergies and phobias and you trust me with all of this info, you believe in me and trust me. You are generally more introverted and vulnerable, and I like that. I love being there and trying to protect and help you, even though

I did a shitty job at it.

You are just the absolute best in bed. You dealt with the crappy conditions that I gave you (like this shitty room with the horrible bed), you complement and love me, you even have a coil which stops you from getting pregnant (how

convenient is that for the guy!), and just love having sex so much. You are so perverted and just perfect all around, I couldn't ask for anything more from a girl.

We are not that different, it's not all about me playing computer games. That's just a hobby. I don't want to go to germany or japan in the heart of a city, living in a tiny apartment no matter what. They are merely things that I

considered doing, I still got a lot of years ahead to plan my future. I would enjoy traveling with you and having dogs, I don't hate dogs, you know Jake and me get along. I don't absolutely *have* to stay with you 24/7. I would enjoy it,

sure, but I am ok with meeting up with you once a month. I began to understand why you don't enjoy talking and why you don't want to meet up frequently. I am sorry for not being able to communicate properly with you, I always made myself

misunderstood, you know first hand how it is. I had no malice at all, there wasn't a single second when I hated you. You know that I never insulted you, or at least I never meant to. I always had respect for you. It's just that I got

used to being an asshole.

I am not giving up on you that easily, I don't care about most things, but I care about you a LOT. I want to prove to you that I can be a good person. I promise you won't regret it, I want to ask you for one last chance. You know that I

love you more than anything, and I know you would enjoy being with me, as long as I'm not an asshole, and I promise I will not be one.

[Blondie114]

Too long in my opinion. Just trying to be honest but it sounds more like a diary entry than a love letter... Your memories aren't necessarily the same as hers... I'll start at the beginning and try to give you a breakdown of some important factors:

To start you shouldn't make her feel responsible for making you happy. That's your own job. Don't tell her no ones ever cared/you felt like shit etc. People are drawn to happy people so even if that's not/wasn't you, don't remind her of that.

Don't remind her of all the 'bad' or annoying things you did - you're trying to win her back, not remind her of what you've done wrong. You can mention somewhere that you've thought long and hard about your relationship and you feel awful that you didn't make more effort etc and that you'd like to apologise sincerely to both her and her mum for some of your behaviour but don't go into details about lengths of driving or your messy room or how much meat you eat lol.

The train/Birmingham memory is a nice one to include.

Don't remind her that you 'both hate people around us' because if she felt stifled in your relationship this isn't something you want to remind her of. Also don't remind her you're a 'poor, couch potato' (your words, not mine!) ... Again you're trying to win her back not remind her of your faults. Put a positive spin on it if you must mention and just say you wish you'd done more together and made more memories of ...'travelling, amusement parks etc' and that if you could go back and change one thing it would be that.

I'm not convinced reminding her of all her own problems is a good idea either - you want her to feel better about herself surely, not worse? Keep it brief... You loved that she felt able to share who she really was and you loved every aspect of her personality blah blah. It's not very nice to say you like that someone had no confidence. You should be trying to build her confidence, not enjoying that she's insecure.

I'm not convinced talking about her being 'perverted' or having a coil are relevant... Makes it sound like you miss the sex more than the person!

It's a good idea to talk about the hobbies as that's what she's mentioned but don't finish the letter by begging. It's not attractive. You can say you think what you had was special and that you don't want to give up on your relationship just yet, but don't say you're NOT giving up... That sounds stalker-like.

Good luck.

[llVIU]

that's by far the best advice... thank you so much, that helps quite a lot. I'm gonna rethink again