In love with "ex" and current girlfriend

[bobbyboy77]

Please dont be judgemental, i know the situation i am in is wrong, that is why im asking for advice...

So, I am in a loving relationship for more than 5 years with my current girlfriend, lets call her Annie...I met her when I was having a huuuuge crush with her friend, lets call her Donna. Donna and I flirted for a long time but at one moment i realized she was playing hot and cold, i made a move, it didnt work, and i went cold towards her even though i still had feelings. I hate when girls go into extreme games. In the same time i met Annie, through Donna actualy, and i was amazed by this girl, we were so compatible and i managed to start falling for her even though i was still crushing with Donna. Eventually, Annie and me ended up in a relationship, which lasts to this day.
During these years I still felt something for Donna, and after recently getting drunk with her and some friends (we have similar social circles) she admited that she loved me after all those years. I said the same. She also has a boyfriend and loves him too. I love my girlfriend.
So you may begin to see the problem. Im not even sure that this is possible - having such similar feelings of love towards two persons. For Donna it is much more fleeting and fluctuating but intense and somewhat painful when it does surface, for Annie it is much more consistent, healing and blissfull.
I guess the answer is obvious? Annie is the right choice, at least according to my gut....although we did have our rough periods too but i guess thats normal in a long relationship ....but the question is - what to do with Donna? I love her too much to exclude her from my life but i feel that if i keep her as a friend this would be disrespectful towards my girlfriend, and could potentially build up things to god knows what. On the other hand, when Donna and I did have a fallout years ago, it didnt "remove" the love...it evolved from a crush to love anyway.
What is the right course of action here? Is there any way to keep them both in my life, and to show Donna some form of affection without it being unfair and disrespectful to Annie?


TL;DR: Im in love with my "ex" and my current girlfriend" They both love me too. I dont want to kick the other girl from my life but I have no idea what to do?

[Gladimeir15]

You do not love your present girl enough to feel that emotion for your ex girlfriend. It is betrayal so you better decide early as to who you are going stay for real.....[URL=https://www.loveforum.net/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=behonest]#behonest[/URL]