Advice??

[TheFryLord]

Alright so I'm a 15 year old male who's in their sophomore year in high school. I go to a very small school so there aren't a lot of girls to choose from when looking for a relationship. There is this one girl who is widely known as a whore. She keeps telling me that my "smile is cute" and that "she loves my hair" even though she has a boyfriend already. She'll probably break up with him if I start to show a lot of interest though. She is surprisingly hot for someone like her, so almost against my will I have taken a liking to her. I don't know if I should approach her, or even if I should, because I know if I do, she will want to have sex with me. I'm still a virgin so iv'e never had an experience like this before. I don't even know if I should be having sex at this age! One of my friends already has, so it makes me wonder. And if I do go for this girl, should I have unprotected sex? I know that it feels better that way but having an unplanned pregnancy is like my worst nightmare. Please leave any comments or advice.

[topazlight]

Just because others label someone promiscuous doesn't mean they actually are. Lots of times that label is used by jealous individuals and not always factually based, fyi.

You don't need to have sex with anyone if you don't feel like or want to have sex yet, you can as a male or female always say, no. If a person pressures you, that is bad form on their part, don't feel guilted into anything.

Don't have sex, so stop worrying what you'll do if she asks, don't do anything. But as a teen always use protection to guard against pregnancy or stds. Just think about maybe kissing her and no more at your age is my advice.

[TheEvilJester]

Personally, my advice would be DO NOT PROCEED. Not with this girl. She already has a boyfriend. As topaz points out, maybe the rumors about her are true, maybe they are not. You would not really have any way to know that, so you shouldn't assume they are true. This is high school you are talking about, so chances are they are probably either 100% bull crap, or at least HEAVILY exaggerated.

Bottom line, though, she has a boyfriend. So, either she's loyal to him and you shouldn't mess with that..... or if she WOULD cheat on him, then she's not really the type of person you should want in your life anyway. She'd most likely eventually wind up doing the same thing to you.

Now, me personally, I do think 15 is too young to have sex.... but these days a lot of folks do have it at that age. You have to do what is right for you. Don't let anybody pressure you into it if you don't feel ready. If anybody would try to treat you as though you were less of a man for being a virgin, then THEY are the one who is less of a man/woman. Forget them.

IF you do decide to have sex (preferably with your OWN girlfriend, not somebody else's) YES, use protection. Why would you not? Accidental pregnancy, STDs, there are just so many ways you could potentially screw up your whole life that aren't worth risking. Good luck to you either way. You are young. Don't feel in a rush to do anything if you are not ready.