I met this new guy when we were both starting our sophomore years of college, we lived in the same building and he and one of his roommates came down to our apartment to introduce themselves and thats how we met. When I first had a real conversation with him I knew there was just something about him that I really liked, we started talking a little and eventually had our first kiss and starting dating at the end of October a few months after we had met. He had never had a girlfriend before so I was a little worried that things would be weird and he wouldn't know what to do but he was so incredibly sweet and perfect, within a few weeks of dating I would think to myself that I could see myself marrying him, which I know is crazy but I always hear that when you know you just know. Anyway things we going great, we never fought, and we were so in love with each other. When it was time for summer vacation, he lives about 4-5 hours away from me so we were going to be long distance for the summer. It was hard but we saw each other about 4-5 times over the summer and we would skype all the time which really helped. When it came time for our Junior year of college, he came back to school, we had both moved into different apartments so we weren't living as close to each other but we still saw each other all the time. Again, he was always so sweet to me and he slept over at my apartment almost every night. First semester things were still great, except we did start having sex a lot less often starting around Halloween, and it wasn't because I didn't love him or wasn't attracted to him, we just got in a rut of not having sex so it kind of just kept going on. He went home for winter break again for about a month, so again we would keep in contact via skype. Second semester is when things started to get weird. He didn't like any of the classes he was taking this semester and always was a little on edge and stressed about school. We are in college so I understand his stress and would do anything I could to help. He always had a vibe of negativity to him and was very irritable, I started to be very careful of what I would say to him, we also started getting in stupid fights every so often. He was still sweet to me, just not as often as before. He would spend hours helping me with my Economics homework, always pay when we went out to eat or did anything, he even would come with me and help when I had babysitting jobs because when he goes back home he works as a daycare so he is really good with kids. In February we booked a spring break trip to Colorado to visit his sister for a week because I had never met her. This is where is gets weird. In early March, everything was fine, he was talking about how excited he was for our trip and even planning what we were going to do when we were there, a couple days later though, he texted me asking if we could talk. I obviously was worried so I called him and he said that he didn't know if this was going to work out, completely blindsided, I was freaking out and panicking, I thought that things were great, and we were supposed to go on this trip together soon. He suddenly turned into a person I didn't know. He came over later that night to talk things over and he said he just didn't feel the same way anymore, he thought of me as more of a friend now and that he didn't think going on the trip together was a good idea anymore, he needed more time to be alone. I was shocked. He didn't seem sad, just really cold. He was really stressed with school at this time so I thought maybe he was just overwhelmed, I handled the situation calmly and told him that I would do anything I could to make this work, we could hangout less because we had been spending a lot of time together, and we could do at least one fun thing together a week to get away from school and spend quality time together, because we had gotten in a rut of just staying in my room all the time and not really going out to do anything. He said he didn't know if he had to energy to try with us or that he didn't think he could promise that he would put a 100% effort into it. So we broke up, he said he would write me a check to pay me back for my plane ticket to Denver, and he left. I went to bed that night and woke up a few hours later at 3am to 4 texts and a few missed calls from him. I answered to phone and he said he was outside my apartment, completely freaked out, I went downstairs and let him in, he said he had made a huge mistake and that he was willing to try with us and that I was the only good thing in his life that he didn't need to replace. He said he didn't know what he was doing before and that he still wanted to go on the trip together. I forgave him, and agreed to try with our relationship and said I would still go on the trip with him. After this, the next week things were fine, we went to the movies together and out to eat a couple of times, it was now time for us to go on our trip together to Denver. We had to take a bus from our university, to his hometown which we were flying out of. We stayed at his parents house that night, and went to the airport early the next morning. Things were normal except I did feel a little on edge sometimes because of what had just happened earlier in the month, I was always a little worried that when he seemed upset or angry he was mad at me or something but I thought that was just in my head. Overall the trip was great, I thought things with us were starting to get back to normal and I really liked his sister a lot. I was with him literally all day for a week, we went on a hike together, drove through the mountains, shopped, went out to eat, played mario kart, and relaxed. When we took our flight back to his hometown we were staying at his parents house one more time until our bus ride back to school the next morning. On the plane we cuddled and slept on each others shoulders, at one point I looked up and he was looking at me like he had never looked at me before, like he had loved me and cared about me so much. I asked him what was it and he said smiled and said nothing I'll tell you later. When we got back to his parents house he was calling me my nickname constantly, he wanted me by him to cuddle at all times, he picked me up and twirled me around and hugged me tight, we goofed around like old times and it felt so. good. We took the bus back to school the next day and my parents picked me up and he walked back to his apartment. I didn't see him that night but we texted and at night he said he loved me. On Monday we have a class together and he seemed stressed and irritable because right when we got back to school he had a ton of things due, so I was trying to help him stay positive and said that if he wanted to focus on homework tonight he didn't have to come over. He texted me later that night and said he didn't think he would come over cause he wanted to work on his homework so I said okay. The next day we have discussion together and he seemed even more stressed and irritable, after class I asked him what was wrong and he said he was just super stressed out with school and that he hated school, he just seemed very upset and negative, not friendly at all. I figured it was just due to all the assignments he had due really soon, so I didn't really think too much of it. Later that night I texted him and asked if he wanted to go grocery shopping with me, we always go together, and he said he probably wouldn't be able to. I called him and asked why he couldn't go and he was very grumpy and cold, he said he probably could go grocery shopping but he just wasn't in the mood or something because he was focused on his homework. He was being very rude and cold on the phone and I said that I understood he was under a lot of pressure but he didn't have to take it out on me and treat me like shit. He was still really cold and only giving me one word answers so I said I couldn't talk to him on the phone anymore if he was going to treat me like that when I didn't do anything wrong, I was just trying to help. About an hour later I texted him and said I understand that you're stressed with school, but you shouldn't take your stress out on people who care about you and are trying to help. I got no response so I called him and still no answer so decided to give him his space for the rest of the night and we didn't talk again until the next day around 1pm. He texted me and said he didn't think he was going to make it to the class we have together and asked if he could talk later. Red flag. I asked him what was wrong and he said us. I was freaking out, he was doing the same thing he did to me about 2 weeks ago! I was in complete shock, he said he really didn't think it was going to work out this time and that he really didn't feel the same way that he used to. I was completely confused and hurt because we had just gotten back from our trip to Colorado where we had spent a week straight together just a couple days before, and on the trip I thought things were going really well, I was so confused. We broke up over text on Wednesday afternoon and its now Sunday. We haven't talked since then. I'm feeling really hurt and lost because just Saturday night, at his house, he was acting like he was so in love with me, and then right when we get back to school he turns cold and wants to break up with me again? I'm so lost, I miss him so much and right now all I want is to get back with him. I want to reach out to him so badly, I kind of wish that we would have talked in person about this because I feel like I need more answers to the many questions I have. I don't understand how this person that I care about so much can just change in the blink of an eye like that, we talked about marriage together and moving in together after college, he was my best friend. He has said in the past that he would never break up with me, that he loved me so much that I would have to break up with him if we were to ever not be together. He wanted forever with me too. I can't imagine life without him and I can't help but feel like I want him back. Is it worth having those feelings of wanting him back? We still have lecture together tomorrow and discussion together on Tuesday, should I try to talk to him after class? Right now i feel like he isn't thinking of me at all, when all I've been doing for days is thinking of him. PLEASE HELP! This is someone I thought was my soulmate, when things were good with us I was so incredibly happy.