I'm so confused, please help

[mayret91]

Me & my bf have been together for 8 months now. We have tried having kids in the past but it never happened. We were also planning to move out together. However, for a while now he has been acting really different & distant. We don't even have sex anymore. He broke up with me yesterday. I feel like a complete mess. He's been such a great guy to me but I have always been possesive, manipulative & insecure with him. This all started a couple months back when he started lying about small petty things. After that I just lost it. He broke up with me because he says i'm never going to change, that we're not meant for eachother & that he doesn't feel that spark for me anymore. He did cry to me & told me he cares so much for me & hates to see me cry & hurt because he knows i'm a good person. He has tried to reassure me sooo many times that i was the only girl he wanted but I just kept on with my insecurities. I have accepted that I have a huge issue. I do not want to completly lose him. I want to geniunly work on my attitude and insecurities. Not only for him but for myself as well. He told me he needs space & time to think to see if he misses me. He also said he's tired of putting in 100%. However, today he told me we can stay together but that he needs to see a huge change in me. I feel soo terrible that it had to get to this point, for him to fall out of love with me to realize that he did love me & that I have a problem which needs work. Do you guys think it's too late to work things out? I am willing to put in my everything this time around. But i'm just scared that he really doesn't feel anything for me? Or that he is with me forcefully or just because he feels bad for me.

[hazey daisy]

If you are insecure/jealous/possessive, then you are not mature/ready enough to be in a serious relationship. You sound very young and you still need time to develop as a person which is normal. I was like you when I was a teenager into my early twenties. It's something you grow out of and can't change over night.

Even if you hold it back, those feelings won't go away, and you will be in a state of misery. If you are in school or college it might help if you seek out a school counselor. They will give you some exercises to help you deal with those pesky feelings.