Nobody Is Interested

[hiddenkite]

I try my best to be approachable and I am confident in my own skin but I am literally never approached by any guys. I’m not an unattractive girl and though I have ended up in this forum I haven’t spent all my time pining for a relationship. I’m happy with who I am as a person but guys don’t seem to see me. It’s like I’m invisible. There are zero guys who have tried to get to know me. Not ugly guys, not hot guys, not nice guys, not bad guys, no guys. It’s frustrating because I’d like to share some time with someone special. One problem may be that I don’t put in the effort in on my part to instigate an interaction which comes to my extreme phobia of rejection. Sometimes I feel like there must be something wrong with me that I don't see. Any advice is appreciated thanks!

[tuningintothe1]

Hi hiddenkite,

You are not alone. Many women say the same thing, including the ones many men consider super pretty.

We men also often have extreme phobias of rejection. We wonder what to say, how to say it, what we’ll do if you’re uncomfortable and don’t want to talk, etc.

Of course, both men and women can strike up a conversation with a simple “Hi’ and just see where it goes. Own your power and let yourself do that. It doesn’t make you any less desirable and it doesn’t make him (whomever he is) any less of a man.

What do you think?