Growly in the morning?

[RoseKnight]

Quick intro: Name's Terry Thayer. 19 year old male. Student at the University of Oklahoma.

Okay, me and my significant other are in love. We're young, but this isn't puppy love. Somehow we just clicked. We lived together over the summer as friends, afraid that it might ruin the relationship. In fact, it's what caused us to fall in love. We live great together. I even have an older friend (50+?) who's a very experienced psychologist who says we have something going on that he's hardly seen at our age. I mean, when we have a problem, we take steps to fix it right then, instead of making assumptions and getting all dramatic later.

To that end, I have a question:

Is it normal and healthy for someone to be really growly in the morning? I feel like I'm asking a stupid question, but I honestly can't understand irrational standoffishness toward someone you love. I mean, I can get really stressed about things, and get sleepy and what not, but that never changes my behavior.

But like... she'll be standoffish, and I try to be patient, but sometimes I'll do things in the morning, like... she'll ask, "What are you doing?" "I'm doing X." "...Why?"

Okay now, maybe I'm misinterpreting this, but everytime she asks why, it feels like there's an underlying connotation of "You're a moron!"

Is it just behavior that changes in the morning, or is this a serious issue?


Sorry for the incoherence of this post. I'm really stressed, and trying to study, but this issue is plaguing me.

Your advice is appreciated.

[TAVS]

Some people arent morning people dude

[RoseKnight]

I know. I'm not one myself; night owl all the way. But being groggy and half-asleep never affects how I treat her.

Sorry if this seems critical, but I don't understand what I'm supposed to do with the fact that she's not a morning person. If I distance myself from her in the morning, she wonders why, and withdraws, and gets sad... Sometimes it seems like I can't win. She wants me to be close, but she also wants me to just take her morning growliness?

[Junsui]

You go to OU?

I'm not a morning person either and it does effect my mood towards others. Are you around each other for a long time in the morning? I guess just act normal around her when she's grumpy?

[TAVS]

You're just going to have to accept that. I can't think of an example off the top of my head as I am busy at work, but there are things like that in a relationship you just have to accept. There were a few things my Ex-gf did that didnt seem logical to me, but that's out of my control.

[Chlorine]

roseknight----Stay out of her way in the morning....aAt least till she's had a cup of coffee?

[shh!]

hehehe
I bet she is probably wondering if all guys are such morons in the morning...

[Tone]

I growl.


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[Tone]

That was sexy.

[shh!]

For you, I will purrrrrrrrrr...
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[Tone]

Okay now THAT is sexy.

[Mish]

Hi RoseKnight

Too hard to tell, not enough information.

Give an example of the things you do and her follow up standoffish behaviour?

How long have you two been together? How long have you two LIVED together?