Should i wait ?

[ImATinyPie]

pre-scriptum: yes a pre-scriptum .. sorry in advance for my bad englsih, i'm french and only 18, i do my best '^'

Hi, something kind of funny and really sad just happened to me, i met a girl with which i talked a lot the past 3 months or so, she is the first person i ever met that shares the same hobbies as mine so we got along really well.
Around 2 weeks before, i asked if that would trouble her if i get attached to her, more than a friend would .. and she kind of not disliked it.
Shortly after, she had to see a friend that was going really bad and because she had to pass by my town she asked if we could spend some time together, and we did, we ate at my apartment .. and she kissed me .. in the neck '-' .. but really not like a friend would do .. that night i fell in love with her, i did not confessed beacause i'm a bit shy and i thought i had the time.
Later, after she arrived at her friend place she sent me an sms asking me to not talk to her until she returns, the first day i started missing her, the second day i missed her even more and realized i really love her.
The third day, when she came back, we spent some time together again, and i confessed ... the thing is ... the other guy did it one day before me.
So we talked and .. she said she would have said yes if i asked before, but because she liked the other guy as much, it's now too late.

And now, the more i think about it the more i realize how much i love her and that i will not be able to get over it before a really long time.

So because i'm going to wait some times to see if she stays with him, and to see how bad of an idea it is, i wanted to ask you if you were successfull or not, in the same situation were you waited for someone you loved to be single to see if you have a chance.

[TheEvilJester]

Hopefully others have had experience in that situation and can offer their thoughts. I myself have not, so I cannot necessarily give you advice from experience. However, I can offer advice all the same. It is rarely a good idea to wait around for somebody. You are putting your own life on hold, waiting for something that may never happen. Meanwhile, maybe the right girl for you is right under your nose.... but you'll miss her because you are hung up on somebody who is not available.

I'd also like to suggest that if you lost out on your chance with a girl merely because you did not profess your love for her BEFORE you two had even really had an official date.... then maybe that is a girl you are better off without anyway. At this point, you two were really just friends. You'd not even gotten so far as to ask her out. Confessing your love to her at this point would have been crazy.

Believe me, I understand sometimes it can FEEL so much like love.... but you can't REALLY be in love with somebody until you've gotten to know them better. You don't necessarily really love her, you love the idea of who and what you think she may be. You still don't really know her well enough to know if she IS what you think and to know whether or not she even is a good match for you at all. For now, though I know it feels nearly impossible to you right now, you just need to move on. Do NOT just wait around for her. IF it just so happens that her and this other guy do not work out.... AND you just so happen still to be single at the time.... then maybe you revisit the idea. But, don't wait around just hoping she'll become single again.

Maybe she won't. Maybe her and this guy will be deliriously happy together. Or maybe they won't work out.... but she'll jump right into a relationship with somebody else. Or maybe they won't work out, but she will find she's not interested in you as anything more than a friend. All of those are possibilities, and in all of those cases, if you wait around you'd have wasted all of that time for nothing. If fate is going to see fit to bring you two together, then late fate do just that. Don't waste a moment of your life waiting for something that may never happen.

Again, I know that is so hard to believe right now. Believe me, in time you will feel better and you will get over her. In time, you will find the right gal for you. Heck, maybe that even WILL turn out to be her.... but maybe it won't. Maybe there is somebody else out there for you. Don't risk missing out on her because you are hung up on somebody you can't have.

Good luck!

[pcmaster]

Just gather your friends go to a nightclub, drink a little and dance and talk with girls. That's how you forget about her. If you can take sex lightly then get a shirt with words on it - "I want to lick pussy" or "Im fat - Let's party !"
And that will increase your chances of getting blowjobs and fun time when you go to a club.