so im in a long distance relationship, have been for 4 years. he doesnt really take care of his body, only eats junk and only drinks junk and im now trying to take better care of myself. i dont care if he doesnt change his eating habits because he doesnt have to but when i ask him ANYTHING like why he doesnt care about his body or the way he feels,he just says he feels good and then says i dont know, literally ANYTHING i ask him about, the answer is ALWAYS i dont know. he has no answers to anything. im 30 and he is 22. i get there is an age gap but its like he tells me how he is one person at work but when he comes home it seems like i get this mono tone speaker who i feel no emotion from. Love obviously wont keep us together but any time i say there has to be a reason why u dont know any answers to the questions i ask, he usually gets really defensive then somehow changes subject to blame me for something. For instance, i asked him why dont u care about ur body or the fact that u dont eat or drink anything good for u and just take in empty calories,and he said i dont know,i dont know what u want me to say i dont have an answer but its like shit i been sitting here for 50 minutes talking to u and your sitting here bitching at me for it. Nowhere in that question did i mention anything about how he doesnt talk to me. I just asked why doesnt he care. I want us to grow and work but it seems like its only me always talking and he just doesnt seem interested, just says sorry alot and tells me he loves me and cares....idk what to do at this point. Its like no matter how much i try to get him to talk to me he wont and he would just rather get defensive,argue,then blame me for the argument,then sit in silence and say im the one sitting in silence, then say if i wanna talk then i need to initiate the convo cuz yet again he doesnt know what to say....am i over reacting, because i feel like im losing my mind....