Hi Guys,
Im a pretty relaxed and open minded guy. I have been in a relationship for three years with a girl, things have been difficult lately but we have been working to save things.
So heres the recent problem which has left me lost for words: A couple of months ago I picked up my girlfriend from a party she was at with some old work friends. She got drunk and said she had a good night, didn't tell me much about the night and I didn't ask..... A week or two later myself, my girl and her best buddy were drinking and chatting, when she blurted out that recently a guy "came on to her real strong". Naturally I was curious about when this happened and with who, so I asked her. She said that it had happened at the party a week or two before, with her work friends. She told me it was this older guy, who was a massage therapist. She said she had no interest in the guy, and I believed her. I didn't push for any more answers and forgot about it because attractive women like my girl are bound to get male attention.
So just before christmas I hear that she is going on another night out with the same old work buddies. This time at a bar nearby. She came home and I heard that they had all had a fun night together and I was glad to hear that. The next day I noticed she had a new friend on Facebook, and from things she mentioned to me I figured out it was this older massage therapist guy she was now friends with. Obviously at this point the alarm bells began to ring for me. I don't feel threatened at all by this man, it just makes me wonder why my girl thinks its okay to now be friends with this guy. Maybe she needs the attention?? and since then he has posted on her page and messaged her saying really complimentary things, if a little brown nosey! I kinda had a chuckle about that. She also mentioned that she considered going to him for a massage, to help her back problems. So I'm paying attention now...
Then just a week or two ago she gets invited directly by this man to a dinner party at his apartment. Guess what, the older guy was giving all the guests at the party massages, and luckily for him, my girl too. Fully clothed massages, but in a social setting and with drink involved... She comes back from the party very drunk and had a good time, she also told me that she had been out on his balcony looking up at the stars with the old guy. Apparently it was lovely! hmmm...
She's telling me all this and I'm wondering what her motive is in all of this. Trying to make me jealous maybe? ... The next day he was messaging her again, sucking up to her, and guess what: suggesting that she have a weekly massage!
So because we have been having problems lately I have been choosing my battles, letting things go somewhat.... The other day, just by chance, a female friend of a friend needed a volunteer to practice sports massage on. In aid of an upcoming assignment. It was to be a quick 15 minute massage in a sober, professional environment. I had no problem helping out, and considering that my girlfriend seemed so relaxed about receiving massages herself, I agreed thinking there would be no problem.... Well, when I told my girlfriend I was getting the massage to her p with an assignment, she got a little testy- the first thing she asked me was: "Is it a man or a woman??"... When I told her it was a woman she completely flipped out! Started shouting at me and slammed my car door, walking off on me. In my opinion that is total double standards on her part, considering the scenarios she has found herself in recently. So what do you think people??? I think I have been fair in my actions... I would love to hear your neutral, honest opinions.
Regards,
Italogent.