Originally Posted by
TheEvilJester
That is an extreme example, sure, but I hope you get my point. My point being that, yes you are right that you can't help sometimes what/who you want.... but you CAN help how you deal with it. If she were single and available, that's an easy one. Ask her out and hope for the best. But, she's in a relationship. As far as you know, she could be insanely happy in that relationship. Even if she's not, though, it's not your place to try to convince her to end it. Not in any way. The only exceptions I could see is if you could see she was very unhappy in the relationship, or if she were being abused in the relationship, then it is okay to talk to her AS A FRIEND and try to convince her to do what is right for her. If that were the case, you could always try asking her out after she's had some time to move on, but you shouldn't approach it as though you want to try to get her to leave him for you.
As for your recent interaction.... I still wouldn't necessarily say that is a definite yes, that she definitely has feelings for you as well. I mean, I do agree with you that two heterosexual friends of opposite genders do not usually (and probably should not) cuddle like that. Gals may sometimes do that with their "girlfriends," but to do so with a guy while she has a boyfriend isn't really appropriate. So, even I have to admit that I'm now sort of thinking maybe she does have some feelings for you.....
BUT, that still doesn't change my answer. Whether she does or not, she's in a relationship. So, even if she DOES, it would be wrong to try to encourage or even strengthen that. Let her deal with her relationship however she sees fit. If it turns out she DOES have feelings for you as well, it would be much more likely to work out well for you if you let her deal with that on her own. In other words, if she winds up leaving her boyfriend of her own volition, THEN you ask her out or even she asks you.... you stand a much better chance of that working out. Otherwise, there are just so many ways it can go bad/reflect poorly on you or her or both. Just as one example, if you tried to get her to leave him for you and succeed..... she may later feel bad about leaving a current boyfriend for somebody else like that.... and may associate you with that feeling and it could later ruin things. Whereas, if she leaves him of her own decision and later you two happen to get together, she thinks of you as this great new boyfriend, not as the guy who made her leave her former boyfriend.