(Porn) do I confront boyfriend about porn I found on his laptop?

[belif]

I've come across downloads of porn, nothing downloaded that recently besides in Jan when he came back to see me as we were apart for some time. This obviously hurts to a degree. If my boyfriend confronted me about my own personal porn use, I would respect if they did not like it.
What do you suggest? As this will play on my mind a lot.

I am quite similar to the porn he watches. Blonde, petite and young looking. What he is watching doesn't make me feel insecure, maybe somewhat disrespected while we were together at that time on "holiday"

What would you do?

[Hooo!]

watch it together with him?

seriously what do you expect? that he doesnt watch porn?

[belif]

watch it together with him?

seriously what do you expect? that he doesnt watch porn?

What hurts is that while we were apart and he has mentioned that he's previously had this issue with other girls. When we were together (whilst he downloaded porn) he found it difficult to cum and he put it down to possibly porn and masturbation technique. I told him to limit the porn and he said he would. Now, after being together for quite some months, he doesn't have this issue and can cum more easily. That's why it hurts.

Also, the porn he watches doesn't interest me. It's men and women, young girls (teens) or punish teens, or "incest" with sister/father.

[pcmaster]

I think you should make your own movies and pictures. So when he wants to jerk off he can look at you.

[belif]

I think you should make your own movies and pictures. So when he wants to jerk off he can look at you.

I have sent him provocative photos actually and he told me that he masturbated to those. This was in the last month or so which is good as I noticed no downloads of porn.

[pcmaster]

Lol. And how do you feel knowing you were his jerking off object? I mean knowing he jerked off at your pic.

[melancholia]

I suggest you get over it and deal with your underlying issues of insecurity instead of bring it to his attention. The first thing you need to remember is porn isn't real. They aren't actually brother and sister, they are adult entertainers who are paid to have sex in front of a camera. Sex in porn is not the same as sex in real life, and most people know that and don't expect sex with their partner to be the same as the sex they see in porn. I get turned on by DP but that doesn't mean I ever want to try two d!cks in me at the same time. Generally, they want a quick release and an easy go-to is to look up whatever they get turned on by.

It's likely he's been watching porn since he was about 12 years old, and is unlikely to ever stop. Most guys watch porn (as do most women), some don't, but to try and tell a person that you don't like their porn watching and you want them to stop is your problem, not theirs. You can't ask a person not to jerk off, because they are free to do whatever they want to their own body, and most people watch porn while doing it and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it as long as they aren't looking at child porn.

You have to get over your insecurities if you want this problem to go away. You cannot expect him to stop watching porn, you just can't.