I've got a problem. One that at least feels really big.
A little bit over a month ago I ran into a girl who was struggling a bit. She's doing her final year at university (nearly done), and she was stressed out, feeling down and doubting herself. She's also forced to live in a city where she has no friends for her final semester, so she's got nobody to talk to.
I ran into her, noticed that she was feeling really down, said that she can talk to me if she's feeling down or need someone to just vent to, and said some kind and encouraging words to her.
The problem is that she's developed feelings for me. After a little while she started contacting me more often, now it's daily (we mostly talk online), and she very often steers the conversation into relationships, how nice they are, asks me about mine, and it's getting very personal. I would lie if I said that it's not very flattering when a smart, cute & really nice girl likes me, but sadly I don't love her. I would love to be her friend, but not her boyfriend. If I could develop feelings for her by just wishing it, I would because she's really nice.
To complicate things even further, she'll soon have her final exam. These are once a year, and if she fails it now, she'll have to re-do it next year. I'm afraid that if I turn her down now, she'll feel so down that she might fail the exam. And that would really be terrible for her. On the other hand, not giving a clear indication that I'm not interested in her in a romantic relationship kind of way is cruel, and the longer this goes on, the worse I would imagine it will feel for her when I turn her down.
So my question is... what do I do? Do I keep it up for now, and turn her down once she's done with her studies, risking to hurt her even more then? Or do I turn her down now, knowing full well that she might fail her final exam, which will set her back a year? And how do you turn down someone anyway? In the past I've never been good at it, I've always made a terrible mess out of things. She's really sweet, and I would hate to hurt her.