Relationship and ex jealousy. Am I crazy?

[Beccamallory1]

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and he has kids with his ex. They've been Broken up for about 10 years and neither of them have ever disrespected me. Well this weekend they are going away for a sporting event with their kid and I can't go because of work. This is the longest they will ever be together since I've started dating my boyfriend. (She's always had a bf or I've always been around). Well they're driving up together a 10 hour drive and for some reason it's just killing me with jealousy. Theyre staying in seperate rooms but I still don't know how to not think of the worst. Please help!

[melancholia]

Part of entering a relationship with someone who has children, is accepting the fact that you will always come second to their children. If your partner has never given you any reason to believe he would stray, or any reason he would still harbor feelings for his ex, you should focus on that. It is a good thing for that child to see its parents get along, and show up for important events together, even if they aren't in a relationship. I think if you keep it in mind that they are going together to show their child they can be at the same event without an issue, you should be OK.

Realize that jealousy is normal and natural, and that everyone feels it. But also keep in mind that while feeling jealous is OK, the way we react and behave because of that feeling can be harmful and unhealthy. Keep your focus positive, and place your energy into the positive aspects of your relationship and your life. Be thankful for what you have, and if you can't move past these feelings of jealousy, try talking to your partner about it and see if he can reinforce those positive feelings you have about the relationship.

[Hooo!]

I am not jealous. I trust my wife completely. If I had doubts I'd voice them and speak about it.

But id simply advise the op to grow up

Your bf is with you for the last 5years and he has chosen you over her. If you are unsure about his feelings and intentions then talk with each other. If you are sure of everything then be glad that he will have a nice time with his children and his ex.

[TheEvilJester]

I don't think you are crazy. Frankly, though, I'm not the best person to judge due to my own lack of sanity. LOL!

But, seriously... jealousy can be perfectly normal and natural. You can't help that part of you gets a little worried over him being around somebody for whom he once shared deep feelings. The thing is you have to take the power within yourself to realize that you are just worried over nothing and to do as best you can not to let it bother you. Believe me, I know that is so much easier said than done. But, think of it like this. They've been broken up for 10 years. You two have been together for 5 years. At this point, it is most likely LONG over in both of their minds.

So, you probably have nothing to worry about. Sure, S happens, as the saying goes. So, it isn't like there is no way it would ever happen.... but if he's otherwise never given you any reason to suspect you can't trust him, then why worry yourself?

Frankly, if he IS enough of a scumbag to cheat on you, then it is going to happen whether you worry yourself sick about it or not. But, most likely, everything will be okay. So, you can't help how you feel.... but just do your best not to let that jealousy take control of you. Good luck!