Unequal long Distance Troubles

[marcusedge]

I'm having trouble with my long distance relationship. We are engaged, lived together for 6 months, visit each other frequently and never had any issues, never had any fights. This is the longest period we've been apart and now we have started arguing.

From my point of view: I work all day and am saving money for our future and I am in a city where I don't know anyone really. The highlight of my day is talking to her. Recently I just feel like she isn't putting in the same effort, I feel second best on a number of occasions she's dropped plans we had for something else. I understand she has to live life but it's hard for me. I have communicated this to her, and still every now and again she'll do little things like we'll have a conversation and she won't even ask how my day was or if i'm okay.

We are arranging her next trip over and suddenly her work has said she can't have 2 consecutive weeks off. Her sister has a graduation from high school and so she HAS to go home a whole day early and suddenly we have 4 full days together and thats it until october. I know that all of our issues are just down to the distance but we had a big fight over this and i don't know what to do.

[Hooo!]

Females arent rational (and males are neither^^) but when i was in a ldr I often had the impression my girl was emotionally angry at me for being away.
However shed never state that was true - because shed know how injust the whole thing is.

If you are saving for your relationship
and your relationship falls apart due to it - then stop what you are doing.

It all depends on how open you both speak to each other. Wether you know that this is her problem. It could be that she is not feeling the connection anymore or even that she has sex with someone else. Do you know how she is taking care of the sexual aspect of your relationship?

also: have you created and recreated and reminded yourself how your futures are EXACTLY gonna be? are you both enthusiastic about the time when you get back together? Do you have a finite date?


To me it sounds like she is either hurt and getting emotionally distant - which should be a wake up call
or it sounds like it is "too late" and she is allready ****ing someone else...
or it sounds like theres just bad circumstances and you are really unlucky. However that would mean that you just have to find other ways and means to be together and spend time together.

Also id advise yourself to go and DO something in the town you are in. Girls hate being the adventure. Go be a man. Have fun in your life. Be fun to be around.
Noone can stay attracted to a grouchy groggy man whos best thing in his life is a skype call a day.