Are guys really mean?

[windycity]

That was nice and all for you to bring him hot soup on a cold day, but... it's kind of unusual/strange, no offense.

Why is everyone saying it's creepy. We know each other!

[windycity]

He probably is trying to give you the brush off in the nice way. Leave him alone! Trust me, the last thing you want to be known as is that "creepy pyscho stalker girl."

I spent $800 because I love him

[Gribble]

I spent $800 because I love him

Either this is BS or you've just stepped from creepy girl to crazy stalker girl. Damn. If he doesn't return the gift it's probably because he's afraid you'll lop his head off and add it to the shrine you've erected in his honor.

[misombra]

send me a gift. i'll thank you.

[Ellynn]

I spent $800 because I love him

800 bucks on a gift for a guy who doesn't give you the time of day??? Now thats scary....

[misombra]

a fool and his(her) money are soon parted.

[CAM]

I already know my crush is not interested in me but I still gave him a birthday gift (i dropped it off in his car this morning) and a sweet love letter expressing my feelings for him. On my letter I said "I still like you but you don't have to like me back". He didn't even say thank you just no response at all! He knows my cell no. and email. I was kinda hoping he'd at least send me a text saying "thank you".

Are all guys this way? What kind of creature am I up to?

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Giving him a gift after he's not interested and that note...it showed not an ounce of personal pride on your part. You are saying to him, "I'm the puppy dog that you just stepped on, but I'm still loyal to you."

Keep that up, my friend, and you'll be a battered wife one day.

[windycity]

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Giving him a gift after he's not interested and that note...it showed not an ounce of personal pride on your part. You are saying to him, "I'm the puppy dog that you just stepped on, but I'm still loyal to you."

Keep that up, my friend, and you'll be a battered wife one day.

YOU GUYS DON'T SEE THE ROMANTIC SIDE OF IT!

[Gribble]

There is no romantic side to it. None. He's not interested. He's made that clear to you.

You bought him an 800 dollar gift. Now he's probably scared of you. It's like you don't have a clue what is and isn't appropriate behavior. You and that creepy MySpace kid should hook up. I think you'd be perfect for each other.

[windycity]

I already know my crush is not interested in me but I still gave him a birthday gift (i dropped it off in his car this morning) and a sweet love letter expressing my feelings for him. On my letter I said "I still like you but you don't have to like me back". He didn't even say thank you just no response at all! He knows my cell no. and email. I was kinda hoping he'd at least send me a text saying "thank you".

Are all guys this way? What kind of creature am I up to?

EVERYONE IN THIS FORUM THINKS IT'S CREEPY AND PSYCHO STALKER. YOU'RE ALL MISSING SOMETHING! THE ROMANTIC SIDE OF LOVE! GIVING AND FORGIVING.

[vashti]

How old are you?

[windycity]

How old are you?

I'm 27 years old.

[Junket]

I'm 27 years old.

There's nothing romantic about an obsessive hopeless romantic.

Tell me, what do I have to do to win you over?

Send you flowers?

Serenade you?

Persist until I'm blue in the face?

You're trying to live a fantasy.

You're the one who isn't seeing the REALITY of it.

The reality is that he doesn't want your attention. Period.

The reality is that he goes and talks to his friends about "how crazy this bitch is".

You're not his girlfriend, wife or mother. From what I've gathered you have this fantasy of being that caring and compassionate girlfriend/wife who's utterly faithful to her partner. Also based off your other thread about you being rich and him poor: it seems to me you're expressing the kind of admiration a mother shows to her child. An almost unconditional love. An urge to ease his "suffering". You want to be needed. Your problem isn't so much your wants or desires, it's his. And he doesn't want or desire you.

[vashti]

I'm 27 years old.

You are kind of old to be completely disregarding the fact that his desires are *also* relevant, aren't you?

[Gigabitch]

Romance takes two. It's that simple. There are many, many phrases that describe your situation. One of them is "unrequited". Another one includes the words "creepy psycho stalker girl".

You don't really know this guy. He is a romantic projection of a part of you that you feel is missing. The only way you are going to be able to move on with your life is to pay some attention to this, deal with it, fix it. It has literally nothing to do with him, and you really ought to stop freaking him out.

My boyfriend cooks for me and brings me coffee in bed. That's romantic. Frasbee flies all the way to Louisiana to see his girlie, and Tiay is spending the summer in a foreign country to be with her SO. That's romantic.

Spending eight hundred bucks on a guy who barely speaks to you is not romantic. It's ****ing mental. Stop it.