a big problem

[Angelstar22]

hey there, my name is Andrea. i am in a really bad place right now i am 18 and ive met a guy i really like and he lives quite far away so he's moving here to try get serious with me, only problem is he is 33 turning 34 later this year. he acts about 25 and looks it too and he loves al the things i love and he gives me inspiration to get my work done, we match perfectly and his ex was close to my age and i remember him telling me that he doesnt get along with people his age and they wont even let him into areas where people his age hang out. so now u can see the shocking age difference but what makes it worse is that my family are all really young my oldest cousin is 21 and my mum is about 1 yr older than my guy so i dont know what im going to do there if i should lie to her and tell her he's younger (about 25) and hope she doesnt get all smart and find out the truth some way, but i cant keep a lie to her if me and him get really serious and he's moving all this way to be with me. i really need some help with what i should do here and please dont hate on me for having an older boyfriend i am happy the way i am right now i just think there are serious risks im going to take and my mum loves me alot i am her only child and i think she would think something really weird of this advice from mothers aswell would help alot

[leoben]

I don't think anyone here will hate you for having an older boyfriend, he sounds like a great guy that's good for you and makes you happy. That's a great thing.

If your mother loves you and sees how good this guy is, then she should be able to get over whatever problems she has with his age eventually. I would tell the truth, it will probably get out eventually anyways if you get into a long term relationship.

Is there a reason you think she might be unwilling to accept the age difference?

[Angelstar22]

I just think that her being 35 and him being 33 is a little awkward but my mum had me when she was in her teens so thats why, my family started out very young whereas his mum is well into her old years, but yes he is a great guy with good intentions

[leoben]

Will probably be awkward at first but if shes a good mom she will eventually grow to accept it.