guys and forgiveness...

[Jolicoeur]

You deserve to be together. I really hope this works out.

[xvi]

You deserve to be together. I really hope this works out.

i hope and pray the same thing... thanks so much J.. i'll keep you posted LOL

[xvi]

i did it... i went to his home to give him my 'peace offer'

and....

[xvi]

its more than a month now...

we talked earlier and he ended it... no more time off... its over... he said he's happy with whats happening in his life right now and he want to stay this way...

i know i'll be okay in time...

[Boisdevie]

No surprise - when a guy says he wants a break that's a way of trying to nicely say IT IS OVER.

[HeartIsAching]

Gestation period of horses is a bit over 11 months, so when you said you were in your 10th month... never mind. It's a bad joke. I don't think you're cheesy for showing affection.

If he doesn't get stressed by a conversation about getting back together or past events this coming week, then I think it's ok to bring him the peace offer. But he has to be the one who initiates the rekindling. He made that clear. Show you care for him, but don't talk about getting back yet.

A word about jalousy: I understand your feelings. And I don't know about the situations that made you upset. Maybe you had your reasons. But look at it from his perspective. If you have no real grounds to suspect him of cheating, acting jalously can be quite insulting. It can be cute when you pout a bit about it. But it is definitely annoying to get up in his face when he didn't do anything wrong. Keep that in mind next time you feel a bit jalous.

There's absolutely nothing cute about jealousy, pouting or not. It's bred of insecurity, and it's ugly.

It's also just about the stupidest thing you can do to somebody you care about that ISN'T cheating. You are in effect telling them over and over again that you don't trust them.

Here's something to think about - many many years ago, I had a GF that constantly accused me of cheating on her - I wasn't. I spent a LOT of time in trouble for imagined slights and transgressions due to her jealousy... And one day I had enough. Broke up with her. She begged to have me back, I went back, got more of the same shit and left again... begged me to come back again, promised that she'd not do it again. Of course, she DID do it again, and by this time I sort of figured that if I was already in trouble for cheating, that I might as well go ahead and cheat. I did. Banged the crap outta her best friend.

Then I broke up with her.

Really want to go there?

[nch713]

i wouldnt take time off from a relationship unless i'm tired of putting effort into it. unless i'm tired of fighting, especially if they are about the same problems. my gf doesn't think very logically. sometimes i feel like i can read her mind. other times, i have no idea what the hell she is thinking.

if i wanted to explore other options, i would just end it forever. if u want him back, maybe you should take the time off to evaluate yourself, and why he wants time off. what have you done to push him to the limit? are you willing to change?