Messed this up good, but why is she mad?

[Balance11]

Girl I've known for over a year now, she started getting close, once got drunk and went back to hers, nothing happened apart from a bit of cuddling, things got a bit weird but went back to normal. Not long after we went out for the day together and had a good time, she seemed happy but again things started to go down hill. We were meant to meet up again but on the day she said she couldn't, with the way things had been going I just assumed it was an excuse and decided that she wasn't interested in me anymore and started to try just being friends.

I was texting my friend telling her about the recent text's she sent me because my friend said she would give me some advice, however the text I was meant to send to my friend I accidentally sent to the girl I like which it was about, this was the text said:

''She's eventually replied to me and the convo was wasn't great not snotty, just kinda normal and she kept putting xx on the end whereas I put none and I'm not sure what to think about it anymore, though I'm happy still''


the girl replied : "What you want me to reply like ?"

I said "Nothing, it wasn't meant to send to you"

Now we aren't talking. I can get her not talking through awkwardness but I don't get why she is pissed off.

[Mathias]

In what part of this story is she pissed off?

[Balance11]

Well i'm guessing from her reply and the fact she hasn't replied to me since what i said that she is pissed off, the reply seemed pretty snotty, yea i know its a text and hard to tell in which way it was meant but it just seems like that.

[Mathias]

Well i'm guessing from her reply and the fact she hasn't replied to me since what i said that she is pissed off, the reply seemed pretty snotty, yea i know its a text and hard to tell in which way it was meant but it just seems like that.

It wasn't snotty at all. It was exactly the type of thing someone confused would write.

The second text message, given that you weren't talking to her, isn't something anyone would reply to.

[Balance11]

She would have to be really naive not realise the text was about her though. Okay lets say you were in my position right now, what would you do and why ?

[Mathias]

She would have to be really naive not realise the text was about her though. Okay lets say you were in my position right now, what would you do and why ?

I don't respond, because the text wasn't meant for me. If you actually wanted to contact me, you would.

Right now, you're talking about me behind my back, but lack the courage to actually initiate a conversation with me. There's no way I'm interested now.

[oldskool83]

ever hear of some shits better said in person not over texts....stupid texters always get ppl in trouble

[Balance11]

I feel embarrassed enough she got the message, i would feel stupider if i did find the courage to initiate contact and talk about it and she just thought ''wow what a freak'', thats my hesitation. There's always the chance she isn't replying because she knows its about me liking her and she feels awkward, therefore surely bringing it up would only make things more awkward ?

[oldskool83]

thats your call, if i messed somthing up id tell somone to their face i wanna talk to you. hell i do that with my ex yet in order to get shit cleared up that she owes me yet lol. man up and dont run away. u can text hey can we talk for 5 mins one day this week at some place. its that simple.

[Balance11]

Normally it would be, this girl though, she's kinda shy, emotionally inward and doesn't let her guard down often, the only time she has really let it down was once when she was drunk which i think i mentioned that in my first post. I think if i had this conversation with her she would simply not respond or avoid it because she hates the awkwardness, which is also what is making me not man up.

[oldskool83]

what ya go to loose, nothing cuz u got nothing..u only got to gain.

[Mathias]

Normally it would be, this girl though, she's kinda shy, emotionally inward and doesn't let her guard down often, the only time she has really let it down was once when she was drunk which i think i mentioned that in my first post. I think if i had this conversation with her she would simply not respond or avoid it because she hates the awkwardness, which is also what is making me not man up.

You're not manning up because you're afraid of the awkwardness. Stop blaming this on her.

[Balance11]

Okay lets say i man up, what would be a good way of initiating the conversation without sounding stupid ?

[oldskool83]

why should i spoon feed you? own up dude. if not just walk up to her pull your pants down and bend over so she can kick you right in your corn hole

[Balance11]

Right after long hard look at my pathetic bitch boy self i manned up, see what happens next few days as nothing either good or bad from the conversation i've just been having with her has made a clear outcome yet.