Help!

[Iansinuk]

Good day...I have met this lady on a uk dating site...when we first communicated she did tell me she was seeing someone already..but not on a serious basis.

We eventually exchanged numbers, met and and have since enjoyed eachother...and after 6 weeks we can still talk for hours on the phone.

You may be wondering where I am going with this....

However...or is it but!...she still has this other guy in tow but am uncertain they have intimacy or when and if they even meet, secrets.

We have an amazing sex life now an there is a but...we appear to meet when this lady has other arrangements suddenly cancelled...and spend the whole of weekends together.

So now...I know she is on the dating site still...a search part of it...but she wont give us a chance!

So now what? Do I say thanks but no thanks...or ??

oh let it be said...we really like eachother!!!

[Vanessa]

but she wont give us a chance!

Then why would you?
If I understand your post correctly, she's still seeing her ex and sleeping with him and she's still searching for dates on that website - why are you even asking what to do?

[Ric]

She's using you to fill her time. That's it. Either be happy with getting sex on a regular basis, or end it if you expect more.

[devonbrown]

I agree with Ric. You have to determine if you are comfortable with a casual relationship where you are always going to be second fiddle or not. I would keep looking for other romantic interests yourself.

Good luck.

[maxmax]

Sounds like she wants to enjoy herself; have her cake and eat it.

She wants attention from you, this other guy, and anyone else on she might meet online that takes her fancy.

That is what she wants. The question is, do you want to continue being a part of it?

The fact that she is ringing you when she's had other 'cancellations' shows that you are unlikely to be her priority in any of this.