Is it wrong to ask a guy why I wasn't very good?

[BackUpOrGetStng]

He probably felt that you would have had sex with him if you liked him enough. It's a moot point now. Let him go, let it go.

[maxmax]

If a guy can't get off it isn't your fault. Something's wrong with him. The reverse isn't necessarily true. Women are complex; but men are like light switches. All it takes is one touch to turn us on.

He's just a little bitch with a limp pecker. Don't let him bring you down, and certainly don't let him ruin your experiences with real men. You may be kind of mediocre due to lack of experience. No shit. What do you expect? Day one: porn star status. Believe me, there's a decent guy out there who'd love nothing more than to practice with you every night until you get it right. And he'll do it without judgement, too. Be comfortable, be confident and have fun. The rest will follow.

Where did you come up with this shit?

[vashti]

If a guy can't get off it isn't your fault. Something's wrong with him. The reverse isn't necessarily true. Women are complex; but men are like light switches. All it takes is one touch to turn us on.

He's just a little bitch with a limp pecker. Don't let him bring you down, and certainly don't let him ruin your experiences with real men. You may be kind of mediocre due to lack of experience. No shit. What do you expect? Day one: porn star status. Believe me, there's a decent guy out there who'd love nothing more than to practice with you every night until you get it right. And he'll do it without judgement, too. Be comfortable, be confident and have fun. The rest will follow.

based on my personal experience, I agree, 100%.

[maxmax]

He reacted the way he did probably because he wanted more than you were giving him.

His intention was probably to get you to 'prove' him wrong in a way to get you to have sex with him.

It's also possible, however, that what you consider as fooling around, he considers as dull, and that you really were doing nothing for him.

Unlike the overwhelmingly knowledgeable Jazzersize seems to be suggesting, you can't blame a guy if you fail to turn him on. Not everyone is proficient at getting the opposite sex turned on. Different strokes for different folks, and all that.

Still, if that were the case, this guy could have given you a few hints before giving up.

[Yet another guy]

If a girl wanted to get me off just with her mouth and hands, she'd probably be quite exhausted by the end

[vashti]

I believe some of you guys spend way too much time wanking, which desensitizes you to a woman's touch. That is NOT her fault.

[Yet another guy]

I believe some of you guys spend way too much time wanking, which desensitizes you to a woman's touch. That is NOT her fault.

Yeah, that's probably a problem that I have. Now no woman is able to give me an orgasm.
But what else can a horny guy do? I would have gone crazy if I hadn't relieved my desires every now and then.

[maxmax]

I believe some of you guys spend way too much time wanking, which desensitizes you to a woman's touch. That is NOT her fault.

I didn't read anything about her touching his dick, so who knows what she categorises as 'fooling' around.

Anyhow, getting an erection and being fully aroused are different things altogether. Perhaps he realised that compared with other girls he had been with that this just wasn't doing it for him.

It happens. I think it's a good thing that he backed out if he really felt that way as it avoids anyone being messed around in the long-run.

I don't see how it's helpful to anyone posting here just to blame the other 'anonymous' party without getting the OP to consider both sides. Saying it's because this guy is 'limp dicked' and entirely to blame, although may be entirely true, is in itself not helpful. In fact, instead of getting the OP to understand all possible reasons for why this has happened, which since she is here we can assume is what she wants, it does the opposite.

So unless the OP just wants to hear it's all the guys fault, then sure, go ahead.

[Wakeup]

He's full of shitzzzz.. Forget the douche and never talk to him again.

[milkshake]

hmmm... i agree with wakeup he's just trying to make you guilty so you will have sex with you. Most men try make you feel guilty so you will give in and the try to manipulate you. Don't give in! Anyways I was in your shoe too. The first time I kissed my ex, he told me that close my mouth or something and said that I'm not very experienced. But now that I have kissed other guys, I realized that he is a horrible kisser. He's too aggressive and doesn't know how to kiss softly and a little more aggressive. He hurt my lips before. Anyways I still wonder if I am good at making out. I recently met this guy and we made out, we kissed, I gave him blow jobs and he seemed to like it, but he said I have a small mouth, but he said I did good.

He did tried to penetrate me once, but I resisted and so he said he won't do that again to me. he probably doesn't want to lose our friendship and do anything that I wouldn't feel comfortable doing. But I'm not sure if I do give him what he wants, then he will leave me. But at this moment I want to take things slow and let him get to know me more. He seems to like me, but i have to get to know him more to find out. When I resisted, he didn't try to ignore me, but I know most guys will ignore girl if they don't give them what they want which is sex, but the guy is still talking to me and wants to take me out to dinner. I hit him a few times he make him stop and he stopped and apologized. I like him, but I am not sure if he does or just into my body. But maybe he likes both haha... i don't know. But if he does ignore you for not having sex with you, then he is a totall jerk.

And yea this guy told me that we should just be friends, but iono.. guy sucks lol

[Jazzersize]

Where did you come up with this shit?

Well, I'm not a complete ****ing loser idiot. That's mostly how I came up with that shit. Only a loser idiot tells a girl she sucks in bed. Either he moves on or he sticks around and coaches her on how it's done. I believe my assumption is as close to indisputable as it gets for anyone who isn't a complete ****ing loser idiot. Also, I'm a sexually healthy male. Even mediocre sex will get me off. It isn't ideal, of course, but my equipment is fully functional and responsive to the female touch. Yours isn't? Are you seriously arguing that your little prick doesn't respond to women? I hate (not really) to burst your bubble but that'd be your problem, not hers. It's called impotency. They have pills for that. Maybe you can bum a few off your grandpa. Be sure and get a few to share with the OP's loser idiot ex.

P.S. And because it probably isn't obvious to you I think you're a loser idiot. That's kind of largely what I was getting at above. I'm spelling it out clearly and in small words down here because, well, you're a loser idiot. Have a nice day.

[searock]

Oh, please just tell him to go f*** himself and keep away from him from now on. You deserve better. He's just making you feel miserable. He's an asshole!

[Wakeup]

Oh, please just tell him to go f*** himself and keep away from him from now on. You deserve better. He's just making you feel miserable. He's an asshole!

Agreed!

Either he moves on or he sticks around and coaches her on how it's done.

Agree on this ^^^ but the rest of your post, not so much.

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So unless the OP just wants to hear it's all the guys fault, then sure, go ahead.

I'm thinking the evidence points to the fact that it is ALL his fault in this particular instance. If he actually was interested in anything other than her pooonannie he would have stuck around and coached her to do it how he liked it. He's a self-centered mealy mouthed wanna be. Op should forget he exists and not let his bullshit screw with her self esteem.