In a relationship, if your partner does something that you don't understand or disagree with regarding their kids, do you say something about it?
if so, what is the right way to approach it?
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13-04-13, 12:33 AM #1
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13-04-13, 12:37 AM #2
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Need. More. Info.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
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13-04-13, 12:41 AM #3
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nothing harmful or threatening to the kids health or safety. Just simply something you disagree with. Do you share your thoughts and feelings about it or just stay out of it?
Originally Posted by Wakeup
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13-04-13, 12:44 AM #4
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It depends. Like with any kids you have to learn to pick your battles. So, what's your battle or do you just want to take right over the diciplinary measures all together? O.O (uhm, not recommended)
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
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13-04-13, 12:45 AM #5
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He's referring to a crazy bitch who bathes a 12 year old. Mojo, stop being such a bitch.
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13-04-13, 12:48 AM #6
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Absolutely not!! I don't want to take over any responsibilities with their children. I just wanted to express my thoughts about something I thought was a little strange. my partner has told me im over opinionated. I might be but I don't force it down their throat and make them do what I think. I just speak my mind. Originally Posted by Wakeup
I always thought that openness and honesty in a relationship regardless of the subject matter is golden for a healthy relationship.
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13-04-13, 01:08 AM #7
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damn dude...you can be a complete assh*#e Originally Posted by BackUpOrGetStng
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13-04-13, 01:10 AM #8
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She doesn't bathe him..she washes his fu@*ing hair sometimes because he cant do a good enough job himself. I still think its not right to do...but you don't have to be a douchebag about it
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13-04-13, 01:12 AM #9
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Your girlfriend is the asshole. I'm a dick. You are a pussy.
"See, there's three kinds of people: dicks, pussies, and assholes. Pussies think everyone can get along, and dicks just want to **** all the time without thinking it through. But then you got your assholes. And all the assholes want is to shit all over everything! So, pussies may get mad at dicks once in a while, because pussies get ****ed by dicks. But dicks also **** assholes. And if they didn't **** the assholes, you know what you'd get? You'd get your dick and your pussy all covered in shit!" -George CarlinLast edited by BackUpOrGetStng; 13-04-13 at 01:16 AM.
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13-04-13, 01:13 AM #10
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Yesterday you were resolved to dump this retard, and now you're trying to figure out how to appease her. Pathetic.
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13-04-13, 01:13 AM #11
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No...YOU ARE CANADIAN
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13-04-13, 02:47 AM #12
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Neither do you. If she helps him wash his hair because he doesn't do a good job then that's none of your business. You've told her how you feel about it, she's told you how she feels about your opinion. End of discussion. If you were the kids father, then that would be a different story. He's 12. Pretty soon he's going to make sure he does it right so that she's not helping him. He'll tell her when he's ready for her to quit being wishy washy with him. Don't worry about it... it's not like he's 16 and getting his jollies from it. (or is that what you thinks actually going on and that's why you're overly concerned?) Originally Posted by mojo71
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
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13-04-13, 03:03 AM #13
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never mind. I just read your other thread and you should probably just leave the entire situation... but, you won't so just learn to shutup and putup in order to keep your steady 60/40 arrangement. It's better to be miserably dismissed at every turn then to be completely alone, Yes? Codependent heaven.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
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13-04-13, 07:43 AM #14
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Absolutely not!! It's important to pick our battles and learn which issues to bite our tongues over. If we were 100% open and honest about everything our partner did which was odd or annoying, we'd turn into a nightmare to live with. Originally Posted by mojo71
As for this issue: what she does with her child is none of your business because it doesn't affect you. Say nothing.Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.
