Small Mental Issue

[FAlex]

Hello Guys,

I had a girlfriend last year for 10 months and we broke up, thing just didn't go well. I kept solo for 8 months and she got a boyfriend 5 weeks later.

After 8 months I was completely over her, I was ready for a new relationship, though now I got a new GF, I started to have issues believing that this will work out, I love my new gf, I want to spend my life with her, and she says so to. But I feel unsafe for some reason. Also I get pissed when some one talks how succesful my EX is with her new Boyfriend, though I wouldn't go back into a relationship with her.

I don't know, It's hard to explain.

[searock]

Truth is, you aren't completely over her, yet. Have you cut off all forms of contact with her? This includes deleting her from social media etc. Make it so that she isn't in your life in any way (apart from the inevitable friends you may have in common).

[FAlex]

Truth is, you aren't completely over her, yet. Have you cut off all forms of contact with her? This includes deleting her from social media etc. Make it so that she isn't in your life in any way (apart from the inevitable friends you may have in common).

Yes, I have cut all forms of contact with her, there's no way to contact me or me to contact her.
The worst part is that she lives like 10-20meters away from me and sometimes we do pass near each other, but I don't even say Hi to avoid conversation.

[searock]

So there is literally no way you can keep her completely out of your life: no wonder you're having trouble getting over her, even if a relatively long time has passed.

I suggest you take it slow with your new girlfriend. You still have things to process from your past relationship.

[FAlex]

So there is literally no way you can keep her completely out of your life: no wonder you're having trouble getting over her, even if a relatively long time has passed.

I suggest you take it slow with your new girlfriend. You still have things to process from your past relationship.

Thanks for the posts, yeah looks like I will just have to take it slow :\

[HeartIsAching]

Hello Guys,

I had a girlfriend last year for 10 months and we broke up, thing just didn't go well. I kept solo for 8 months and she got a boyfriend 5 weeks later.

After 8 months I was completely over her, I was ready for a new relationship, though now I got a new GF, I started to have issues believing that this will work out, I love my new gf, I want to spend my life with her, and she says so to. But I feel unsafe for some reason. Also I get pissed when s some one talks how succesful my EX is with her new Boyfriend, though I wouldn't go back into a relationship with her.

I don't know, It's hard to explain.

It's not hard to explain, it's a trauma response. If you wait long enough, you'll stop waiting for the other shoe to drop.