What am I going through ? :S

[party]

Okay background information firstly.
I've been dating for almost a year now with this lovely girl.We both go to the same college and we spend a lot of time together when in college and its all nice and happy.Now we are having our summer vacations and we constantly keep in touch over whatsapp.We both end up texting on whatsapp each other always if we both are online till either one of us leaves because of some work or something.This is how it was for almost a month now(since vacations started) and she also used to text a guy she liked back in high school(although feelings are not there anymore which she tells and i believe her) and was still in touch through whatsapp and texts(i am pretty sure he likes her) and also she never told him about me and this obviously made me uncomfortable cuz honestly if she didnt like him anymore why would she even continue to stay in touch even though they never met for a few years and so i told her about how i felt about all this and she told me that she wouldn't text him anymore becuase he really doesnt mean anything and this happens to be true because i actually added him on whatsapp and used to check both their last seen on time updates and they never really matched so he is a thing of the past now i guess.
Now for a few days what has been happening is that she takes her time to send me replies..as in a minute or two which really isnt a lot but it sure does feel like it for me because we always used to text so quickly before and this actually bothers me.I know there are guys she texts from my college and in general(she is the popular kind) and she I am afraid cant differentiate between the normal texts friendly guys send and when guys are trying to flirt and she might unintentionally flirt back.And now because of these time delays it has been bothering me because I feel as if she doesnt give me the due importance how I do cuz I always reply to her first and then the rest come and its like its okay for her to keep me waiting and not the other person and its like if the other person is a guy;i'll be like why? whats he saying? is he more interesting? and stuff like that which is driving me nuts.Its like i want to keep tabs on everyone she is texting and I obviously cant ask her who and why she is texting.
Anyway,I keep convincing myself that, hey its okay if she does text others as long as she is with me and i know deep inside me that there can be nothing wrong with her innocent texting and if those guys even try making a move she will block them from her life like how she has done to 3 other guys( these 3 i clearly knew that they liked her and she never realized that till they asked her out and this was all when she was with me ..such losers..i dont feel right telling her that "hey,that guy there likes you..maybe you should make it clear that you are not interested at all")..how can i even tell something like that?
anyway yeah even though i know the guy would be blocked if he ever made a move like ask her out there is this feeling of insecurity that she is texting the guys and maybe she is being too friendly and those guys are taking it as she is flirting..such things worry me and i feel insecure..

Thanks for reading and how do I go about these feelings I have?

[michelle23]

If she is getting that much attention than yes she is encouraging it. Id say it gives her an ego boost knowing these guys are interested in her and she is probably sending them mixed signals. People don't get that much attention unless they enjoy it or welcome it somehow. It doesn't matter how good looking she is. She wouldn't have all these males sniffing around her if they all thought they don't stand a chance.

And whats up with her not telling that guy she has a bf? I see major red flags here..

It doesn't sound like you are the insecure type normally. You are feeling insecure because of her behavior and maybe you should just save yourself the torture and end it?

[Am I crazy?]

WTF? Really? I really don't intend to be mean or disrespectful but you are one insecure little man.

[michelle23]

WTF? Really? I really don't intend to be mean or disrespectful but you are one insecure little man.

Personally I think long distance doesn't work. This is a common problem. And I also think people don't get that much attention unless they want it.

[Am I crazy?]

just to clarify my position, I was referring to his freaking out over the length of time for her to respond to his texting and his automatically assuming the delay is because she is texting another dude. Good lord, will he have cardiac arrest is she is taking a dump and takes 5 minutes to respond?

[michelle23]

haha ya I see where your coming from. That's over the top. But once a few doubts are already there-it can do crazy things to someones mind and the anxiety takes over to the point of OCD. I don't see this relationship working

[Am I crazy?]

I don't either.

[4 ratties]

Started off interesting, then turned into A post about "texting" ... Done reading now. No advice.. This is rediculous.

[party]

yeah she is the friendly kind..talks to everyone and makes new friends easily.the thing is i think she doesnt know when it she goes over the line
is there any polite way to tell her to not lead these guys on? or do i just let her fend for herself ?

and how do i convince myself that i dont need to think too much each time she gives someone else importance over me through text or whatever
i dont want to be crazy over this
i am not like this :/

[toyboy]

Started off interesting, then turned into A post about "texting" ... Done reading now. No advice.. This is rediculous.

ridiculous*

[paythebills]

insecure little man