getting dumped out of nowhere

[michaelyoung]

my cousin was 22 and had been dating a girl for about 4 years. he was saying she was the one and was gonna propose. before he could though she dumped him. she sai d"i'm sorry but i just don't love you like i did"

he was crushed and i was 15 at the time and was shocked. so i have always been afraid of getting in a serious relationship due to that happening. i mean to not even expect it and love a girl to the point where you wanna marry her has to suck and make you feel like crap

anyone experience this? how did you get over it?

[okwhat2013]

Better to love once than never at all. Or is that sex, hell I can't remember anymore. :-)

[smackie9]

Suck it up princess, there is no guarantees in life. You accept what life deals you and you go from there. Without experiences such as this, you never learn, grow, and become wiser. Reality is, relationship will come and go in your life, the first one will end and so will the next and so on. This how we are prepared for marriage. When we learn from our mistakes and experiences, we will have a more successful marriage and life. It not something to fear, but to embrace.

[michelle23]

he was 15 at the time? puppy love rarely lasts. you can either be safe and watch the rest of the world pass you by or you can leap and worry later if you fall. its better to experience love and pain than nothing at all. do you wana die alone with 20cats?

[okwhat2013]

^^^^ isn't that what I said?? :-)

[LifeInflux]

Everyone handles relationships differently. At the young age of 22, it will be just one heartbreak of many in his lifetime, and likely yours. You can choose to abstain from any meaningful relationship, but with relationships as well as with cards, no risk - no reward.

In love and in life there will always be something out there that can bring you to your knees. I've been there. I was completely devastated to the point I had to climb 15 feet to the floor before I could pick myself up off of it.

At the end of the day, when you're ready for a real relationship, you'll know it. Maybe you'll feel like you are never ready. People live all sorts of lifestyles. I'm not going to convince you to find someone, but if you're asking me personally if I've been through the same thing and if it is worth it to risk that same pain again, -- this is me emphatically telling you, yes.

[Empty Road]

Happened to me. You can get over a person easily but you can't really get over the experience. It forever changes you.

[rafterman]

^^^^ isn't that what I said?? :-)

Yes, get use to the echos...

[TablesandChairs]

Empty Road makes a good point; heart-break does change a person but that doesn't mean you pine for the ex forever; quite the opposite. It makes you a bit wiser, less likely to wear your heart on your sleeve...it makes you more resilient too. That said, it's strange to let another person's experiences dictate your life; unless you want to be single forever (which is an option) then you have to get used to the possibility that you may/may not get dumped (or be the dumper). That's life.

[michelle23]

I think you learn from every experience. I have been hurt once by an ex but it helped learn what I want/dont want. It made me strong and made sure I am never a doormat for anyone. It temporarily knocked my confidence but now I believe in myself more than I have ever done and I will never settle for second best.

I also lost a close relative. That pain brought me so low. At the time I thought I would never climb out of it. It was the worst thing I ever had to deal with but again when I finally got through it-2 and a half years later I started to feel like me again-it made me realize that no matter how bad things get, no matter how hard it is or how much it hurts-its only temporary and I learned how strong I am and that I can handle whatever life throws at me. Something like that changes you-Ill never be the same person I was before that happened but at least I no now that I can handle pain-that I wont fall to pieces when the s**t hits the fan. I will keep moving forward