I forgot my earrings at his place. Should I contact him?

**Lilia** · 13-11-13, 10:23 AM

I had sex with a guy and we are not dating. I don;t know if he wants to see me ever again. He is not clear about what he wants. He says "Every long relationship must start with a fun and short experience" And before we had sex he had told me that he didn't know if he wanted it just once or many times or if he wanted a long term relationship. We had a very good evening together and we talked about different things. We had a long walk to his house and then a long walk back to the metro. And I developed feelings for him... He was amazing at sex too. It was perfect... I only wish there had been more foreplay. But it is like we both didn't have patience for it.
And when we said "good bye" to each other he didn't suggest meeting again. But he asked me if I wanted to go to a cafe to eat smith before I go home. I said no cos I felt that he was just being nice and I felt like it was a good time to leave. SO I said "no thx, may be another time" He gave me a beautiful kiss and I went home.
I want to see him again... I also forgot my earrings at his place (not intentionally) The earrings are not expensive. So I don't know what to do now. Should I write him a msg like "Hi, just realized I forgot my earrings at your flat! Don't worry though, it is ok. =)." And then he might write that I can pick them up next time. So if he wants to see me again that would be a good reason to invite me over...Or will he think that I am trying to find a reason to see him again? I don;t want to look desperate.
Or may be I should wait until he finds them on his table (that's where I left them) and then he might think of me more and miss me... And then he might write me a msg?
I don't know what to do...I am also afraid that if I leave it as it is he won't even notice the earrings on his table. Cos they are quite small...
Should I send him that text or not? I wanna see him again so badly! He is a guy from my dreams!

**Maple1714** · 13-11-13, 10:38 AM

I say don't contact him...let him come to you. Also, if he does contact you again be cautious...it could just be for sex and you have already developed feelings. Not a good idea (in my opinion) to sleep with men right away if you are the type to develop such strong feelings from sex. Of course, he was good at it...prob. b/c he is a player and has had a lot of practice. If he sees your earnings then he will be reminded of you and maybe contact you? Next time you hang out, if it happens, don't have sex...see what happens after that. Good luck!

**Lilia** · 13-11-13, 10:44 AM

Originally Posted by Maple1714

I say don't contact him...let him come to you. Also, if he does contact you again be cautious...it could just be for sex and you have already developed feelings. Not a good idea (in my opinion) to sleep with men right away if you are the type to develop such strong feelings from sex. Of course, he was good at it...prob. b/c he is a player and has had a lot of practice. If he sees your earnings then he will be reminded of you and maybe contact you? Next time you hang out, if it happens, don't have sex...see what happens after that. Good luck!

You are probably right... I am so so madly and deeply in love with him already! Don't know how it could happen so fast. He is perfect form head to toes..

**Maple1714** · 13-11-13, 10:49 AM

Originally Posted by Lilia

You are probably right... I am so so madly and deeply in love with him already! Don't know how it could happen so fast. He is perfect form head to toes..

Oh geez...you're up shit creek now lol.

Try and remember that it isn't "love" right now...just lust/infatuation. Seriously, do not contact him!

**Lilia** · 13-11-13, 10:57 AM

Originally Posted by Maple1714

Oh geez...you're up shit creek now lol.

Try and remember that it isn't "love" right now...just lust/infatuation. Seriously, do not contact him!

Right I won't! I'll let him miss me and I am sure he will! He has a boring job and he is a foreigner. He is French but there are very few girls in Russia who speak French or English fluently.
He will easily find a lot of girls for sex but he won't easily find someone who can talk to him about everything. SO he is lonely, he has some male friends here though but it is a different thing. If he is not made of stone and ice he will miss talking to me. Cos we had fun time talking, laughed and giggled at silly things like if we were fools.

**Maple1714** · 13-11-13, 11:06 AM

Originally Posted by Lilia

Right I won't! I'll let him miss me and I am sure he will! He has a boring job and he is a foreigner. He is French but there are very few girls in Russia who speak French or English fluently.
He will easily find a lot of girls for sex but he won't easily find someone who can talk to him about everything. SO he is lonely, he has some male friends here though but it is a different thing. If he is not made of stone and ice he will miss talking to me. Cos we had fun time talking, laughed and giggled at silly things like we were fools.

Just have confidence in yourself and if he calls that's cool, if he doesn't move on. Again, be weary of him even if he does call. How many days has it been? How old are you both?

Also, you don't want someone to call you just b/c they are bored/lonely do you? You want him to contact you again b/c he truly enjoyed your time spent together. You want him to contact you b/c he would rather spend time with you above anyone else.

**BackUpOrGetStng** · 13-11-13, 11:09 AM

"Forgot" your earrings. How convenient.

**Maple1714** · 13-11-13, 11:11 AM

Originally Posted by BackUpOrGetStng

"Forgot" your earrings. How convenient.

Haha...if she was really trying she would have "forgotten" her underwear.

**BackUpOrGetStng** · 13-11-13, 11:12 AM

Why? That has no value.

**Lilia** · 13-11-13, 11:13 AM

Originally Posted by Maple1714

Just have confidence in yourself and if he calls that's cool, if he doesn't move on. Again, be weary of him even if he does call. How many days has it been? How old are you both?
Also, you don't want someone to call you just b/c they are bored/lonely do you? You want him to contact you again b/c he truly enjoyed your time spent together. You want him to contact you b/c he would rather spend time with you above anyone else.

It is just the third date. He wanted to have sex on the second date already. I am 24 and he is 28.
Of course I want him for more than casual sex... but I feel like I need him so much that I agree on casual sex if he offers it. He is so perfect and amazingly beautiful. He is like a diamond, so damn good looking. He is a miracle. And he has an amusing personality! He is so so cute. I watched him play with his dog and he looked so innocent... like a child. And he can be shy sometimes and awkward. And I like it too.

**Maple1714** · 13-11-13, 11:17 AM

Originally Posted by BackUpOrGetStng

Why? That has no value.

I dunno....just joking around

**BackUpOrGetStng** · 13-11-13, 11:18 AM

Well, this is a very serious matter.

**Maple1714** · 13-11-13, 11:21 AM

Originally Posted by BackUpOrGetStng

Well, this is a very serious matter.

True, I need to be more serious.

Side note - I dated this guy once who would forget his underwear, cell phone charger, all kinds of random things. It really was irrelevant....he was just that spacey. Awesome guy.

**Lilia** · 13-11-13, 11:27 AM

Do you think he will at least SEE(notice) my earring on the table? They are like half of an inch. A shape of a silver leaf.

**Maple1714** · 13-11-13, 11:32 AM

Who the heck knows? His dog might have eaten them lol. Just try and chill out and focus on other things. I know it's hard, but I promise you that if I can feel your clingyness coming through this strong over the computer, he can sense it too! That will push him away.

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