I forgot my earrings at his place. Should I contact him?

**Lilia** · 13-11-13, 11:41 AM

Originally Posted by Maple1714

Who the heck knows? His dog might have eaten them lol. Just try and chill out and focus on other things. I know it's hard, but I promise you that if I can feel your clingyness coming through this strong over the computer, he can sense it too! That will push him away.

If I don't contact him, will he have doubts if I liked sex with him or not? Will he see that I am not clingy? I was very affectionate in bed with him.. may be too much... Can there be too much affection in sex though? I don't know.. When he finished he was laying on his back and I took his hands and starting kissing them. It is not like I was worshipping him. I wasn't. I was a hot mess and overly sensual and it was so natural for me to do.. And he was looking at me and smiling with a soft tender smile. Like he was really touched by that act.

**Maple1714** · 13-11-13, 11:53 AM

I am sure he liked the sex...really what man doesn't like sex with a woman? It would have to be pretty bad I would think, for a man not to like the sex. You are obsessing. Stop it.

**Starnique** · 13-11-13, 12:07 PM

Forget about the earrings. There not even real. If they were it would be diff. I have left earrings, lip gloss and most recently I left some eye lashes lol. I took a shower and they were getting on my nerves and I just took them off so its not a big deal. It is an excuse to see him but let him come to you since the accessory isn't that important. You could hit him up but I say let him pursue you unless you really want to see what's up. Do as you feel. If you hit him up and he don't reply. NEVER hit him up again.

**Lilia** · 13-11-13, 12:13 PM

Originally Posted by Starnique

Forget about the earrings. There not even real. If they were it would be diff. I have left earrings, lip gloss and most recently I left some eye lashes lol. I took a shower and they were getting on my nerves and I just took them off so its not a big deal. It is an excuse to see him but let him come to you since the accessory isn't that important. You could hit him up but I say let him pursue you unless you really want to see what's up. Do as you feel. If you hit him up and he don't reply. NEVER hit him up again.

You are right. I'll let him pursue me. Now it looks clear to me that I shouldn't contact him. Cos if I write him now it is like I don't give him a chance to do it before me.
He was so good. Girls, it was like the best day of my life. The chemistry was so incredibly strong. I didn't have such chemistry with my ex. Even at the beginning.

**BackUpOrGetStng** · 13-11-13, 12:18 PM

Lilia, you sound a little nuts(so the sex was probably good), but you also sound like a cool chick. Try not to get so far ahead of yourself. I can't imagine he wouldn't have picked up on how much you like him. That could be scary depending on how long you've known each other. From what he's already said, I wouldn't get too attached, early on.

**Starnique** · 13-11-13, 12:37 PM

Originally Posted by Lilia

You are right. I'll let him pursue me. Now it looks clear to me that I shouldn't contact him. Cos if I write him now it is like I don't give him a chance to do it before me.
He was so good. Girls, it was like the best day of my life. The chemistry was so incredibly strong. I didn't have such chemistry with my ex. Even at the beginning.

Lilia, if you want to contact him go ahead. If I have sex with someone and its good and i felt connected, im gonna hit them up and tell them how I feel. Make it known to him you liked it and you like him. Show yourself open. Once he see that, he can pursue you. Let him pursue you completely after that.

**Lilia** · 13-11-13, 01:05 PM

Originally Posted by BackUpOrGetStng

Lilia, you sound a little nuts(so the sex was probably good), but you also sound like a cool chick. Try not to get so far ahead of yourself. I can't imagine he wouldn't have picked up on how much you like him. That could be scary depending on how long you've known each other. From what he's already said, I wouldn't get too attached, early on.

But the way he acted was like he liked me a lot too... When we were walking back to the metro he was holding my hand and stroking it gently. He touched my hair when we stopped to say good bye and his eyes were dreamy. Like he adored me... Also before sex when we were walking to his house he was looking at me with adoration. Not lust, I mean tenderness and adoration in his eyes...

**Lilia** · 13-11-13, 01:11 PM

And when we started kissing on his bed he was so overwhelmed with desire that his hands got so cold! Like ice. And his ears were cold too. And after sex he looked like he had fever. His cheeks were burning, they were so red. He was so beautiful and messy...

**Maple1714** · 13-11-13, 01:15 PM

Originally Posted by Lilia

And when we started kissing on his bed he was so overwhelmed with desire that his hands got so cold! Like ice. And his ears were cold too. And after sex he looked like he had fever. His cheeks were burning, they were so red. He was so beautiful and messy...

Good lord you've got it bad! Lol. Maybe you should just call him? I forgot your answer, but how long has it been since this sex happened?

**Lilia** · 13-11-13, 01:25 PM

Originally Posted by Maple1714

Good lord you've got it bad! Lol. Maybe you should just call him? I forgot your answer, but how long has it been since this sex happened?

Yes!! Now you see it =) The sex happened today, about 3 hours ago and I just got home.
If I call him he will think I am clingy, no? He could have been nice enough to send me a text like "good night" or "did u get home safely?" but he didn't. He is not a simple guy...

**BackUpOrGetStng** · 13-11-13, 01:29 PM

Originally Posted by Lilia

And when we started kissing on his bed he was so overwhelmed with desire that his hands got so cold! Like ice. And his ears were cold too. And after sex he looked like he had fever. His cheeks were burning, they were so red. He was so beautiful and messy...

I'm very familiar with it all. Good sex, even amazing sex, doesn't necessarily mean I want anything more than that from the girl. I've had girls act the same way you are right now, and cite how intense and affectionate I am in bed as evidence that I want more from them. WRONG!

Not saying it's definitely the case here, but judging by his words and actions, you shouldn't expect much.

**Lilia** · 13-11-13, 01:42 PM

Originally Posted by BackUpOrGetStng

I'm very familiar with it all. Good sex, even amazing sex, doesn't necessarily mean I want anything more than that from the girl. I've had girls act the same way you are right now, and cite how intense and affectionate I am in bed as evidence that I want more from them. WRONG!

Not saying it's definitely the case here, but judging by his words and actions, you shouldn't expect much.

That's probably the sad truth...
BTW, why didn't you want to see those girls again if the sex was amazing? You didn't want to repeat good experience again?
Cos I hope to see him again even if it is for sex only. Do you think a chance for that is big considering what I've told you about the way he acted with me?

**Maple1714** · 13-11-13, 01:44 PM

Oh wow it just happened? Do not call him. Just enjoy the feelings you have now and let it go until he contacts you.

**Lilia** · 13-11-13, 01:47 PM

Originally Posted by Maple1714

Oh wow it just happened? Do not call him. Just enjoy the feelings you have now and let it go until he contacts you.

Ok, I'll listen to your advice. ) I am really still enjoying it. The feelings are so good.

**Maple1714** · 13-11-13, 01:55 PM

Originally Posted by Lilia

That's probably the sad truth...

See, your intuition is already telling you what's up. So, the only way to move forward is to not contact him. But, when he does (I am sure he will) let him know how you feel.

He will prob. contact you by tomorrow night if he is going to at all...it will happen tomorrow

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