Why would he break up like that?

[ReneeA]

Hey guys. I had posted a previous thread rambling on about my issue. Any way it's now over and he has broken it off with me. BUT -they way he did it was so disrespectful. He didn't even call me and tell me honestly how he felt which doesn't make any sense to me because we started off as friends and we were honest about EVERYTHING. SO i kept calling him to talk and see what was going on and he told me things like, "You should've known (it wouldn't last)" (FYI he had been in a relationship for 6 yrs and it wasn't going well and he fell in love with me)and even the other day I called to ask if he was going to send me my things that he had and before i said anything he said "Why are you still calling me or even texting me? It's like you're not comprehending." Which makes no sense cause i never once begged him to come back to me.
It almost seems like he's trying to purposely be an a**hole cuz maybe he feels guilty for doing what he did to me.(ie stringing me along and playing me for money) Do you think he feels guilty? I never once did anything to hurt him and in fact I was there for him and helped him out above and beyond my means. I'm not crazy psycho and I haven't left any harassing msgs or anything so I know I didn't do anything to deserve this bad treatment. And when I do talk to him, he talks to me like I've done something to hurt him. He knows that I love him and still do, as he's shown me the best times of my life, and I've texted him telling him so and that there's no need to argue and that if he feels it should be over then that's fine-as long as he's happy. It just hurts because I've been nothing put a positive influence in his life and I miss our friendship. Maybe he just feels that he has to pretend to hate me not to be with me. Does that make any twisted sense? Do people think that way? And is it possible for someone to fall out of love in 48hrs as in one day they tell you that they love you and want to spend the rest of their life with you and the next, they don't want to have anything to do with you?

[Tone]

Wait - so how long were you two together?

And 2 days after he told you he loved you he starts actin like Captain ****stick?

The way he's acting - should just give you more incentive to want to move on. Sounds like he was just a jerk all along in disguise and finally decided it was time he couldn't hold it in anymore. Move on. =/

[Junket]

The Loveforum motto: Forget 'em and move on.

[gingerbabe86]

yea just forget about him... he's not worth u'r love anymore.. it's like all of a sudden he turned his back on u for some reason and u didn't do anything wrong... just let it go

[ReneeA]

We had met one year ago and became more than friends about nine months ago. It was like nothing I had ever experienced before and we connected on a deep level and like i said we were friends so that's why I can't understand why he's disrespecting me like that. He's even proposed to me and told me that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, but that's all changed now. I understand that another girl was in the picture from the start, but he never once expressed any doubt about "us" so it really stunned me. Since he told me that he basically doesn't want anything to do with me I've come to terms and I guess I'll never understand his reasons. But something inside tells me that we'll meet again and under different circumstances. But I'm not trippin on it.

[Asip4u]

Sorry to hear that, ReneeA. Maybe he was in denial all along. Especially since you're saying there was a girl in the picture. Sometimes you try to prove to somebody else that you are so happy with everything and take things to any extreme, even if that's not truly what you want. I agree with the rest, move on.

[Tone]

But something inside tells me that we'll meet again and under different circumstances.

Yeah - that 'something inside' ALWAYS does...

But I'm not trippin on it.

Good for you, darlin.

[rcia]

You are right on. He isn't man enough to take responsibility for breaking it off, so it makes him feel better to put it on you. If he can just get mad at you then he can justify his jerk moves that he's pulling on you. Trust me, move on, move way on and get rid of him. "YOU" don't need him in your life, it is very clear that; it's his loss. Try one more time to get your things back and if he doesn't comply, chalk it up as a loss. Take back your power, look at him realistically and tell yourself. "I don't want him anymore!!"