need help ahh...!

[smiley.]

Ok, this is my situation.

I have been dating my bf for almost 4 years, have steady income, good career and a beautiful house. Life seemed to be set.
Then somehow, I met someone online, and we somehow fell for each other, and it's so deep, it's like non of us experienced before. So i decided to try it out, he is far far away, and we haven't even seen each other, but the feelings we have, it's undescribable... It's like I saw lights in life, that i never knew it existed.

So, just when I decided to leave, found out i am pregant with my bf's baby...

what to do?...

[shille]

Maybe its not necessarily this guy who is giving you these feelings of love........like from the film serendipity the quote is....or something like this:

"if you want to be with this new person, maybe its not THAT person but just the fact you want to be somewhere ELSE"

Maybe you are searching for this true love that dosent excist now or ever with your current boyfriend........some people settle for a "nice" happy life, its whether you want that, or choose to leave and go in search of your ultimate dream ya know...

[BuzzLiteBeer]

damn, that's tough...falling for someone else after such a long and developed relationship with your bf (the house and the baby) is something eally nerve racking i suppose. i suggest you think about your feelings for this other guy and think if it's something worth throwing away your current relationship for.

[IceQueen]

I would leave anyway. And my motivation would be not to be with the new guy but because I didn't love the old guy. There's nothing more miserable than being with someone you don't love.

As for hooking up with the new guy, before you do -- he absolutely must know you are pregnant.

[luvyun]

it's great to fall in love, to find someone u truly love and be with.
but at this current moment, think about what you gonna do with the baby... are u gonna break the news to yr bf and abort the baby or are u gonna let the new guy know that you are having someone else baby and pray he'll accept it?

break the news to both guys, that's my suggestion, see how the guys react to it... that might give u a better idea/help in making a choice.

[smiley.]

Thanks for all the reply, I'll give you guys an update. When I found out i was pregnant, I let both guys know right away. I don't like to keep things from people, cuz it not fair. And the new guy wanted to bail out, so it's easier for me, even though he hurt him so much for wanting to do that. I asked him to stay, and try not to make decision for me. Both me and my bf realized that, even if not for this new guy, we wouldn't be together forever, just cuz there must be someone to fill that something missing from our relationship. So he understands, but he really wants the baby. He still loves me a lot, and he loves the baby too. He is willing to bring it up. While, after I told new guy about it, and he is willing to raise the baby with me too, as long as that's what i want. So now, I am going to actually find out what the baby wants to do (some energy things are involved) , I rather have an abortion, but I don't wanna deny the rights to him/her to choose how he/she wants the life to me, to end, or be with dad, or be with mommy and mommy's new bf.
After that, I will find my replacement for work and get a ticket to see him. I think that's what'll do at least at this moment. I am willing to risk everything to be with the one I truely love. Right now, I am just hanging here because i need to tight up all the lose ends, I don't just wanna make a mess and escape my life here. Even though it's hurting all 3 of us, and I don't want it to last any longer than it has to last, but I believe in the long run, all these stress is worth it.

Again, thanks for the replies, they really confirmed what I believed in.