Bah what to do...

[Misterj]

This seems to be a good place for some impartial advice so... I met this girl over the weekend when i went out with friends. She was really nice and seemed like the kind of person I'd want to socialize with. She seemed to be swooning over my friend (who is taken btw). I was too much of a chicken to ask for her number then but I could probably still get it. Thing is I had my heart effectively tromped on a few months ago by someone I really cared for and I'm just starting to get myself back on track to my goals in life. I always get this sense of urgency when I meet someone interesting like "If I'm not fast I'll miss out." Some sage input from the experienced would be appreciated.

[loneWolf_23]

i agree wif vashti
if you want to ask her phoneNum just ask...
if she finds u gud enough then she'll give u

if not, most prob she's not interested in you...

[Gigabitch]

I always get this sense of urgency when I meet someone interesting like "If I'm not fast I'll miss out."

Of course you will. You're also missing out on the really interesting girl that was at the party the other night, and you didn't even notice her because you were really into Whatsername, who was into your friend. This happens all the time.

Look, the world is one big opportunity. There is no need to be anxious or rush yourself if you're not ready to date after your last heartbreak. In fact, going into something new all flinchy from the last experience would probably mess up the new thing anyway.

Raise your standards. Don't involve yourself until you're ready and hold out for someone who actually wants you. The situation you describe is a waste of time.