need help please!

[sanada21]

Heres my situation. Theres me, my partner, and the girl. All three of us work within a committee consisting of a dozen or so people. My partner and I share the same job for planning the event, and are pretty good friends (but no history as i met him when the committe formed). The girl we BOTH like is somewhat flirtatious and is recently coming off a serious breakup. I think she was attracted to me first, but I never made a move because I was unsure of my feelings. Recently, my partner and the girl have been seemingly symbiotically attached. They eat, drink, hang out, study, and transport each other on a daily basis now. I have also recently called out my partner on it, and we spoke truthfully as friends, with him revealing that he wanted to be with her, and me telling him I wasnt sure (and prob not interested.. which i regret now *doh*) and just wanted to be closer friends with the girl. i realize that 1) a serious relationship with the girl is risky with her being fresh out of a relationship 2) the event we are all planning for could be in jeopardy if there is any serious drama. at this point, i feel jealous (of all the attention they give to each other) of my partner and wish i could spend as much time with the girl as he does. Another thing is what my partner revealed to me, which was that he likes her def., but she flip flops (one day shes attentive, another shes flirty with other guys). he isnt sure what to really make of her. what can i do at this point? (knowing that i like the girl, her treating me like a friend and treating my partner like her best long lost buddy) should i confront the girl? should i tell my partner how i really feel? should i say nothing and be depressed seeing/hearing about them everyday? any advice would be greatly appreciated. thank you.

[sanada21]

we're all volunteers to setup an event (still in college!). in that sense, it requires less professionalism, but not by that much. any type of relationship drama would negatively effect the group dynamics i think. my partner is my work partner, and recently became pretty close friends (close as in, i was able to confront him about whether he liked the girl or not and him asking me what he should do about it). im wondering whether i should actively pursue (or at least get to know better) the girl knowing that:
1) she and my partner are very very buddy buddy
2) my partner thinks that i think nothing of her now

also, i recently setup lunch with the girl. im unsure as to whether i should question about her and my partner's relationship. simply put, i like her. my partner likes her. we both dont know whether she likes any of us, but for my partner, hes getting alot of time with her (but hes also confused whether shes doing this as a rebound/comfort friend sorta thing, or whether its the real deal). for my partner's sake and my sake as well, id like to know how she feels about whoever. so..should i bring this up? if so, how? ex: so...you and my partner have ben hanging out alot lately...do you by anychance like him? im pretty close with him, and i know he likes you....that sorta thing? thanks guys!

[sanada21]

thanks for your advice...i suppose what happens between them is none of my business, its just really to accept/live with every single day.

also, i cant fall back on the lunch with the girl now, so any suggestions as to what i should/shouldnt bring up? would someone take offense to me bringing a topic like this up? if anything, i would really like to be honest, and for her to be as well. i wish i could tell her straight up how i feel, how my partner feels (although thats been pretty obvious to everyone). in terms of taking a step back, does that mean i cant try to be close friends with her as well? they are by no means a couple or even dating, but theyve kinda been acting like it (without the physical stuff). im probably being really stubborn right now, but it seems like the only way i could come to terms with whats going on is to solidify my/and my partners speculation with actual confirmation. if she were to to say "yes, im interested in him" than that for me is 100% confirmed. but if i werent to ask or she were to no answer it, im just going to keep going crazy over something...that i really shouldnt be going crazy over..

[sanada21]

we met as volunteers to help setup an event. i also found that he happened to be my classmate. recently we've become friends (not just acquaintances or event planning partners). he isnt my best friend or anything, but hes a good guy i wouldnt want to lose over a girl. but at the same time, i really really cant stop thinking about this girl. and it doesnt help that she made it pretty obvious that she was into me before (months before), but i wasnt sure of myself then (and of her since she was fresh out of a breakup). its like...i had the chance, didnt take it because i was (too?)cautious, and now i regret it because it SEEMS like my friend/partner and the girl are very close. i guess right now im just really contemplating whether i should bring it up at all...because im gonna go crazy

[Mathias]

Let your friend have him.

Step up earlier next time.

[Gigabitch]

Too damn complicated. Find someone else to date.