flirtness level

[genesys4]

as a guy, I always like to flirt with every woman I encounter. not bcoz I think it as a sport, but it's just to boost up my self-confidence.
the thing is, I heard that there's a line in between general flirtness (the one used for everyone) and specific flirt (used on the person u r interested).
how do guys or gurls differentiate between the two? I have no idea, bcoz my tactic is just the same for every gurl...

[beanie]

what does your "technique" usually consist of? how do you go about it? i don't know about guys, but i think a lot of women will generally touch the guy, like hand arm shoulder, if she is really flirting for interest. like if a guy tells a joke, she will laugh "haha <arm touch> that's funny" type of thing. the shy girls, maybe not so much. i myself use a lot of eye contact and smiles, not that i really expect that to work, but hey, i don't have to really brush up on my flrit thing now anyway.

[bloodtippedrose]

specific flirting? wow ive never heard of such a thing. I know of harmless cute "gonna try to get a date with this girl" flirting and hardcore "i want in her pants now" flirting but anything more? ridiculous. Even flirting has to become more complicated..

[genesys4]

specific flirting? wow ive never heard of such a thing. I know of harmless cute "gonna try to get a date with this girl" flirting and hardcore "i want in her pants now" flirting but anything more? ridiculous. Even flirting has to become more complicated..

yeah, I think that's the one.. but not as to 'go into her pants' type.
it's like 'charming with the gurls' and/or 'hey, I'm the one for you' kinda thing.
i think what I've been doing up to now is 'charming with the gurls' kinda thing.. what's the significance as to the other one?

[bloodtippedrose]

yeah, I think that's the one.. but not as to 'go into her pants' type.
it's like 'charming with the gurls' and/or 'hey, I'm the one for you' kinda thing.
i think what I've been doing up to now is 'charming with the gurls' kinda thing.. what's the significance as to the other one?

it doesnt work. unless youre talking to some fluz who will give it up in a heartbeat, and if thats the case dont even bother flirting. You want to find a whore go check out the freshman at college dorm rooms where stds are most frequently transmitted, you want a lady then youll have to look harder.

[allyups]

I think that there are other ways to boost your confidence. Once you start flirting with anyone, how will you stop once you've found that one girl. ? Maybe I am just old. What is the difference between flirting and being friendly? That is my age old battle with men I've dated.

[Mathias]

Waiting for a long grkscorp post.

[lastwish]

As a female, I can't tell the difference. However I think a women will either take it as mutual interest or disregard it depending on whether she is interested in you or not. But if you are known to flirt with every female alive then they will probably not take ur flirting that seriosuly until you make it clear you want a date. Just my opinion.

[bloodtippedrose]

Everything you say is your opinion silly ;P

[wxyz00]

Almost every one flirts. Its fun, harmless and feel-good.

Casual Flirting: short time span, general topics, a few innuendos, basically flighty and flippant, nothing substantial, e.g talk about dates/outings you know will never happen cause you don't see each other outside of the limited context you have or you don't even have each other's numbers, basically meaningless, room for backing out, can be stepped up to serious flirting

Serious Flirting: longer time span, more interest, personal questions or interest in individual's life/personality/opinions/whatever, more concrete plans i.e. actually getting that number, more talk about "hanging out", person actually aware your into them

..... at least in my perception...

[Gigabitch]

I think more serious flirting happens to the exclusion of everyone around you. You get "locked in" to each other. Casual flirting isn't like that.

[genesys4]

if casual flirting consists of NOT having her numbers etc, then I dunno.. bcoz i happen to have messenger IDs, e-mails and in fact their phone numbers, but we seldom see each other due to the limited context as u stated
so how's that?

[Mathias]

I think more serious flirting happens to the exclusion of everyone around you. You get "locked in" to each other. Casual flirting isn't like that.

This is the post of the day. Huge difference between the two.

[miSSleepy]

if i'm generally flirting it's mainly verbal, if i'm flirting due to interest there's more physical contact and Giga was very right about the "locked in" part

[wxyz00]

@genesys4

I've more or less given examples of what casual flirting can be .... nothing cut and dry.... Now a days social network sites like facebook answer nearly all our questions about the person without us actually ever meeting them...

Serious Flirting is more specific and individualized.... your focus is entirely on this one individual. E.g speaking with one person most of the night , or inviting someone to an event... etc..