He knows i like him now....so what next?

[thuthy]

There is a man I have known for a couple of years....Now when I say know, I dont know him on a personal level, he owns a business I shop at not so frequently.

It has always been a friendly "hello how are you?" conversation and that is that.


I have got the biggets crush on him ever and it has only ever grown stronger. I didnt want to ask him out so i thought if i tell him i like him then he can be assured if he asked me out that he wouldnt be rejected.

Here's what happened....

I went in there last week and he was complaining about his weight and how he needs to lose some and i said to him "you are perfect as you are" and he looked down with a huge smile on his face and said "thanks" but he looked shy/embarrassed.

I sent an email to him the day before i was going in the next time to see if he would be open (i knew he would) but just wanted to make conversation. I said i was working late (which was true) and i couldnt wait to get home and relax and have a drink.

He responded with telling me his business was open and to have a drink on him.

I go in there with a friend who actually knows his family....well her parents know his parents and he knows of her as well. Both families come from the same European country.
So my friend came with me and taught me to say "I like you very much" in his language and i walked in there and told him that and he had a grin on his face and was blushing and i said to him "you're blushing" and he said "i'm blushing i'm blushing" lol

Then he said to me "is that true?" for what i had said about liking him and i said "very much so" and then he turned to my friend and was asking her "is that true? does she like me? does she tell you?" and my friend confirmed...Then he asked if i had that beer on him and i said i did and he said he had some to....

I said i would've prefered his company and i said "maybe you could join me next time" and i was actually so nervous i dont remember the response but i think he said "maybe"

Anyway i let it go for a few days and after the weekend send him an email saying "how was your weekend?" and i get no reponse. I went to the shop to get something and he was really cold towards me, not talking or saying much. He asked how i was and that was that....no mention of the other day me telling him i like him or anything.

Then i said dont you check your email? and he said "yeah why did u send something? and i said "yes" and he said nothing came through. And i left it at that and he never responded.

Now i am not sure what to do. For a while i thought he was interested and now i think he isnt. The signs are to mixed and i dont want to give up on him just yet. I like him a lot.

Please let me know what you make of the events that have happened and please offer advice what i can do.

Thankyou

[Gigabitch]

Ouch. I'd say the rule is to err on the side of caution. Yes, the signals are mixed. Some of them have been very good, but the others are very clear. Be careful.

I say send your friend back in there and have her scope it out. Do you trust her? Would she do this for you?

[Only-virgins]

Leave fatty alone. He sounds like he doesn't want to be bothered.

[Gigabitch]

Why you have to make me laugh like that, huh?

[thuthy]

I trust her. But what can i tell her to say to him to suss it out?

[Gigabitch]

Maybe she could casually mention you, like, "Oh, I haven't been in here since that time I was with thuthy. Has she been in here since?" and then watch his reaction.

[Charlie Boy II]

Sorry but he's not keen. Give it up.

[DoesntMatter]

ask him on a date to McDonalds

[Only-virgins]

Listen, either he doesn't want to go out with you OR there is only one thing that could have happened. He felt uncomfortable trying to open up and ask or anything with your friend there. Look at it this way, if he is shy, while for you your friend is a comfort wheel...someone that makes you more relaxed to talk to him and help you with the conversation...for him she may be more intimidation and lack of confidence.

The girl I liked tried once to bring a friend(male) along to spark a conversation with me. ....FLOP! horrible ****ing idea.

[thuthy]

Mmmm. I am more confused than ever with what to do. I spoke with my friend today and she said she would go see him and talk to him and see what she could get out of him.

[thuthy]

Listen, either he doesn't want to go out with you OR there is only one thing that could have happened. He felt uncomfortable trying to open up and ask or anything with your friend there. Look at it this way, if he is shy, while for you your friend is a comfort wheel...someone that makes you more relaxed to talk to him and help you with the conversation...for him she may be more intimidation and lack of confidence.

The girl I liked tried once to bring a friend(male) along to spark a conversation with me. ....FLOP! horrible ****ing idea.

That's an interesting point. I get a bit shy around him and that is why i take my friend in with me, she helps me feel at ease. Never thought about it intimidating him. Maybe i need to pluck up the courage to go and see him alone.....Ohhh man that willl be soooo hard

[Only-virgins]

That's an interesting point. I get a bit shy around him and that is why i take my friend in with me, she helps me feel at ease. Never thought about it intimidating him. Maybe i need to pluck up the courage to go and see him alone.....Ohhh man that willl be soooo hard

He should be doing the approaching according to a lot of people but yea. If you confront him straight up he will be forced to spill the beans, rather than this BSing around with a friend. If he rejects you than who cares right? Good luck and I know it is hard...welcome to the guys world.

[thuthy]

mmmm.....so maybe i am going to ask him out and if he rejects me well then i will live by your motto of who cares? lol

[Only-virgins]

mmmm.....so maybe i am going to ask him out and if he rejects me well then i will live by your motto of who cares? lol

There ya go. Tell us how it goes

[thuthy]

There ya go. Tell us how it goes

I am trying to gain the courage to ask him. After all the rejection he has put me through. I dont have as big crush on him as i did before.