Need Advice

[urbancoyote]

Hi, I have a situation that I do not know how to handle. I have been with my gf for a year and a half now and we have been living together for over a year. We are planning a visit back home and staying with her family. In the past we have always stayed with her parent who are very conservative and do not let us sleep together in the same room. Since this is her parents I am respectful and go along. For this trip we are staying with her younger sister and she told me that we will not be able to sleep together there.

I am really put off by that. We are both 40 years old and have grown children! I do not know how to take that or respond. I feel like I am being treated like a child. I feel that if I give in and do it that I am allowing myself to be treated like a child, disrespected and less of a man. On the other hand, if I say I am not going or I will get a hotel room that I will be perceived as childish and someone who always has to get their way.

What to do? I really love my gf but I don't want this to be something that comes between us.

Thanks

[Cain]

Get a hotel room. Who cares what they think? Your gf, however, should agree with your getting it. She should tell her sister that she wanted to get the hotel. Whether she did or not, she should be on your side.

[vashti]

Either get a hotel room or marry your g/f so you can be treated the way you want. People have a right to determine the rules for their own homes. You shouldn't take it personally.

[littlewing]

Ask her what she thinks...

[TAVS]

Get Over it. You're 40, you shouldnt be bothered by such things.

[someonelse]

Just like out of respect at her parents home you have to respect her sister's home as well. You should talk to her and get a hotel room. Anyone complains just explain you don't want to be a bother to anyone and it's just easier.