Please tell me something....please

[xtravag]

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My problem may look strange..I love a girl whom I know for the past 2 yrs..love her so much..but cudn't express her wen she was with me..we both r very gud frends..understand each other well..but now shes married..its been 1 year she left me..This 1 yr was like hell to me..after she left..i felt how much i miss her..theres not even a single day that i dint cry..i keep thinking of her all the time..just cant be able to forget her...

Now we both r located in different places ..and even now we are very gud frends..and keep talking mostly work related and general as she was also my colleague earlier..But but...i lost the opportunity for the lifetime..

I just cant think of another girl in my life..at the same time i dont want to disturb her by expressing my agony now..Im really in a horrible situation..Hell sort of situation...What to do...what about my future.

Please..Please..anyone in the forum can help/suggest me !!!
Please.......

[Mish]

It sounds like you are infatuated and you need something to occupy your mind so you stop thinking about her. Try to spend more time with your friends, do something fun, go out and meet new people, work out, pick up a sport, build up your self esteem. You might think that she's the only person in the world right now, the one and only. The truth is, there are many girls like her and once you infatuation runs out of steam you will be able to see that more clearly.

[Cain]

Honestly, being friends with her won't work. You are not her friend. You're someone that's hoping her marriage falls apart so that you can date her again.

She's married. She has a new life. You're out of it. Find new friends and a new gf.

[bluesummer]

It hurts, but you can't spend your life obsessing over one person you can't even have. What good is it going to do you, other than make you depressed? That's like sitting in your room crying every day because you can't live in Buckingham Palace. You know it's absolutely impossible, but it's easier to make yourself depressed over it constantly than to go find some other nice place to live.

Go spend time with friends, get out there and meet other people. She will slowly start to slip out of your mind. Honestly, if I had a dollar for every time I've heard someone on this forum say "I will never love anyone but him/her!" I would be rich. Oh, and they always meet someone else later and say how happy they are.

[Cain]

It hurts, but you can't spend your life obsessing over one person you can't even have. What good is it going to do you, other than make you depressed? That's like sitting in your room crying every day because you can't live in Buckingham Palace. You know it's absolutely impossible, but it's easier to make yourself depressed over it constantly than to go find some other nice place to live.

Go spend time with friends, get out there and meet other people. She will slowly start to slip out of your mind. Honestly, if I had a dollar for every time I've heard someone on this forum say "I will never love anyone but him/her!" I would be rich. Oh, and they always meet someone else later and say how happy they are.

I agree with this to an extent. I love my gf, but if we broke up, I'd definitely eventually love someone else. However, I can't honestly say that I'd find someone that I'd ever love more than I love her because I don't know. It'd be something I'd have to find out... though I sure as hell don't want to.

[bluesummer]

I'm not saying you have to find someone you love MORE. Over time though, you do tend to forget how much you loved a person. My very first bf I was with for five years, and I remember just being so in love with him, the though of him even getting hurt would make me cry. I can't remember how that feels though. I can look right at his picture and feel absolutely nothing, no emotion whatsoever. Almost like he's a stranger, now.

[Cain]

I'm not saying you have to find someone you love MORE. Over time though, you do tend to forget how much you loved a person. My very first bf I was with for five years, and I remember just being so in love with him, the though of him even getting hurt would make me cry. I can't remember how that feels though. I can look right at his picture and feel absolutely nothing, no emotion whatsoever. Almost like he's a stranger, now.

I think it would also depend on the reason for the breakup. If it was something like distance, I don't think I'd ever stop loving her.

[bluesummer]

Ha ha Cain, we ALL say that. Truth is, you do keep loving a person, but the love changes. It becomes more like love for a friend.

[Tedel]

First suggestion: Stop loving her instead of yourself. You were not born to love her. You were born to have your own life, make your own decisions and seek your own goals.

If she married someone else, it is because she was not for you. Rant all you want, cry all you want, but sooner or later, you need to stop that, pull yourself together and go on with your life.

Eventually, you will find someone much better than her, and you will feel a little fool for suffering for her now.

Don't worry. It happens to most of us.

[IndiReloaded]

Troll. Right out from under the bridge.

[thuthy]

she's moved on and so should you. Your agony and feelings are irrelevant now, she has a husband, dont put her in an awkward situation.

[Revan]

i think its better if you cut her out of your life, at least for as long as you need to get over her.
Example: Would you get over the death of your dog if he kept walking by every day?