Does he love me?

[Sandy426]

Hi my name is Sandy,
Two years ago a guy and I were about to start a relationship when he found a job in another country and decided not to start with me.
A year later he got another offer here and came back.

All this time, although I tried to let go, I still missed him so much. When he came back, I thought we could be together again. However, at first, he ignored me totally, there was like a thick wall building between me and him....
These few months, he seemed to be a little more open, we would go out together (with other friends), talked more and he would stay around me.
But he would not contact me privately, wouldn't call, wouldn't write.
I am so confused now, I don't know if he loves me or not.
If he loves me, why would he make me wait?
If he don't, then why hang around with me?

What should I do???

[lastwish]

I don't see any confusing actions from his side. He left you for a job in another country with ease and when he came back, he ignored you completely. He doesn't seem to want a romantic relationship with you. He might hang around, perhaps he begin to think there might be a chance you guys can be friends but thats all. It doesn't mean he wants a romantic relationship with you. So...just move on.

[someonelse]

Play it cool and let him chase you a bit. You should want him to work for it. Once you guys are together you'll plenty of time together. Meanwhile flirt and and enjoy. I always hear women complain about how they miss the chase. Don't miss out. GOOD LUCK

[Cain]

I don't see how you could be confused about this either. What makes you think he would have loved you before? Just because you start a relationship doesn't mean he loves you. I wouldn't leave my gf for a job if she couldn't follow simply because I love her. I'd also never ignore her.

It doesn't sound like he loves you... or even has a strong liking for you.

[JarrodHalsey]

I guess the bigger question is what do you even like about him?

[Sandy426]

To tell you the truth I don't know why I am so attach to him either. Sometimes I will tell myself, if I have a friend in my case, me too I will tell her to quit without doubt. It was like... when I first noticed that we are not able to be together, I have this strong believe that one day, he will come back to me, and then he really came back! For all these time, I was trying so hard to protect what we have established, hopfully we can build up on that again.
Maybe my problem is.... I don't know how to let go.... =((

[Cain]

Maybe my problem is.... I don't know how to let go.... =((

That needs to be fixed. You need to learn how to let go otherwise you could end up in a relationship that isn't good for you and you won't be able to leave.

This guy doesn't care about you as much as you care for him, otherwise he wouldn't have taken that job.. Don't settle for that. Go out and find better.