Friends openion

[Exodus]

Lately, my friend has introduced me to a girl and we went out on a date last night. I think it went good and we had fun. What my friend is telling me now though is that she wished she had never brought us together because I deserve somone better, and she doesn't want to see me get hurt by her. My friend thinks that this girl will hurt me more than I'd hurt her when I have to leave in 2 and a half months. I'm trying to just have fun with her, I do like her, but I've kinda noticed that we'd probably not last together in the long term, I dunno though... I've not had much experience, but it just doesn't seem like it's clicking like it would have to for a longer relationship, its fine for just a fun/experimental thing for me though, it's not like we don't get along. We had fun on our date last night and I finally got up the courage to hold her hand(heh I'm still shy), we didn't kiss though. I'm just kinda looking to have some fun before I leave for college. I don't want to get attached, but my friend who introduced us seems to think that I will and then I'll be really hurt by it.

I dunno, I'm keeping in my mind my situation and what I think of her so far, I do like her, don't think I'm just going out with her to get some action or something lol, friends or more would be fine by me. I don't want to get attached, and I don't think I'd let myself get attached... purposely anyway. But I mean yeah, as much as I'd want to not do this, like I would have normally done in the past, I just feel like even if I do get attached and then leave I think the experience would be worth having. I mean I do have my whole life ahead of me and there will be plenty of time to do other things and recover. I'm still young and I deserve to have a little on the fly fun. Ah well this is my situation, and I just figured I'd get some openions on it. My friends are just watching out for me, I know, but I think its different for them because they are not in my shoes and haven't lived my life.

[sfalexi]

True. They aren't in your shoes and haven't lived your life. They don't know how YOU'LL react or how YOU'LL feel about the girl. You may not even like her that much after a few more dates. Just tell your friend that you appreciate her concern, but feel that you just want to see how it goes. And tell her that even if in the end you DO end up being her, it should be YOUR choice, not hers.

Alexi

[dragoon]

At your age, IMO, you should just concentrate more on having fun. When I was your age I got into a 2.5 year long relationship and I think I missed out on a lot. I really got to know my girlfriend well, but how to handle girls in general and all the nuances and such that go along with dating I missed out on.

If you guys hit it off and last a long time, cool. But at the same time, if you just have fun and stay casual, that's totally cool too. Especially at your age.

[sfalexi]

If you guys hit it off and last a long time, cool. But at the same time, if you just have fun and stay casual, that's totally cool too.

Exactly. Don't worry about it being one or the other. Just see what happens.

[Breezy18]

Exodus, my dear, you said it best when you said, "I think the experience would be worth having". You are TOO right. Like Dragoon said, you are young and should be out just having fun and experiencing life at it's best. I too got into a LTR when I was very young which turned into a not so great marriage. If I had a do-over, it would be that. I would have spent my younger years dating lots of people, (not having sex with lots, just dating lots) and finding out exactly what I could and could not live with. The most important thing is, have fun. ENJOY what you do. Whatever it is.

[Exodus]

Yeah... thats kinda what I was thinking too breezy, thanks everyone.