Heeelllp

[mab220_0]

I got engaged a few months ago. My fiance has children to another woman. Their relationship is really bad, she took off with the kids 2 years ago. We went through court ($50K we cn not afford and are still paying off...) everything was ok for a while but now the preverbial has hit the fan again. I have supported him through the worst of everything with the kids, the ex... When we met they were kind of still trying to resolve the relationship I feel like everyone else got the best of him, and all I get is the crap. We have never had a "hot" relationship, it has always been a steady as you go kind of thing. I have cold feet, what can I do? Is this normal? I love his children so much and the pain of losing them again is too much to bear. I think the ex is making things difficult in purpose. Sorry for the ramble... I am really confused.

[Indignant]

i think there are so many things to be considered in this kind of relationship. if you love each other then no amount of money or stress should come between you. money comes and goes, but you'll always be there to support each other. another way to look at it is not not to be stressed when it comes to material things. just this year i lost close to 10k and decided not to have it bring me down, our health is so much more important than anything else.

on another hand....if you feel like you are trapped and this relationship is not making you happy, then you have to evaluate everything. imagine what you'd feel like without them. would you be happier on your own? with another man? then yes, go for it.