Im not sure what is going on... :(

[jkrobs]

Hi there, This is my first post on a forum and I would appreciate all the help I can get.

I am currently a single 24 year old male. since about september time I have know this girl from my work who is 22 years of age, we often walked home together after work and got to know each other pretty well. We then exchanged number and we have send each other messages often.

She does have a child and was married too. Due to a bad relationship where her husband who was abusive and also had taken her to court over there child they split. The fact she has a child does not bother me one bit..She has told me she likes me and Im a nice guy and so on, but she has told me she wants to get to know me more before making a decision as does not wanna get hurt..I understand that.

Anyway we text each other often, Ive often asked her if she would like to go out someplace for a drink and ofcours she can bring her son with her as I wanna get to know her better, everytime I ask her by message or face to face she changes the subject, this gives me the feeling that maybe she is not interested. But what I don't understand is that if I do not text her becouse Im busy, she texts me saying.."Oh I guess ur busy with your Policing (as Im a part-time police officer) so I will let you get on with it, have a good life bye! I get these message from her, which I don't understand?

At work she ignores me and never hardly talks to me, she will talk and laught with other guys, Its really confusing me...it makes me think maybe shes embrrased if people found out or something??

I really like this girl and would like to make something happen, I understand why she wants to give it time...

but she always turns me down when I ask her to go out somewhere, she ignores me at work..why does she do this?? Im I just too sensitive? I feel Im getting mixed messages

I also recently played a little game with her, I was not being horrible, just wanted to see her reaction. I made out I met a girl in my part time policing. as Soon I told her, she said, oh so your going out with her??, then she would send jealous texts saying " your so good looking. I would then text her saying, "Well yours meet that someone special soon Im sure, she would text back saying " No one will ever want me, I will die all alone" I would then text her, " Well Im not that special and so on" Then she would reply "U are really good looking and I think your my kind of guy, nice smile and body and so on.. I appreciate playing this game with her was not really very good of me,
I just understand what her problem is, she will never go out with me when I offer, she does text me a lot when she at home, makes me wonder maybe she lonely?? and using me?

Maybe Im just worrying too much? Id like to hear about what you think?

What should I do??? Give me some tips, shes a really nice girl, just confusing me...

[Cbrider]

I also recently played a little game with her, I was not being horrible, just wanted to see her reaction. I made out I met a girl in my part time policing. as Soon I told her, she said, oh so your going out with her??, then she would send jealous texts saying " your so good looking. I would then text her saying, "Well yours meet that someone special soon Im sure, she would text back saying " No one will ever want me, I will die all alone" I would then text her, " Well Im not that special and so on" Then she would reply "U are really good looking and I think your my kind of guy, nice smile and body and so on.. I appreciate playing this game with her was not really very good of me,
I just understand what her problem is, she will never go out with me when I offer, she does text me a lot when she at home, makes me wonder maybe she lonely?? and using me?

Maybe Im just worrying too much? Id like to hear about what you think?

What should I do??? Give me some tips, shes a really nice girl, just confusing me...

You need to leave her be until she decides what she wants. Shes been married, divorced and had a child ands shes 22 years old. She may be sending mixed messages to you because she is confused, let her be and she will come around on her own terms.

As for you, you are immature and doing a bang up job of showing it. Your make out thing is the stupidest thing I have read in a while. It makes you look like an ass tbh, and if some girl told me that i'd ask her to not contact me again.

I don't mean to sound like a dick, but trust me, you need to hear it and theres people here who would do go about telling you in meaner ways.