I'm not sure what's going on

[iceangelred86]

A little over 3 years ago I dated a girl for around three months. We had been good friends my senior year of high school, and she knew I wanted to date, but didn't want to do so as she was moving about a six hour drive away from where I lived after high school. I went away to college, but still had a "thing" for her. We tried the long distance thing for about three months, and it was just hard, so we amicably broke up (although I initiated it).

We continued to talk once a week or so even after the break up, and still saw each other from time to time. Three months later I got into what ended up being a 2 1/2 year relationship with another girl, and she moved on as well. We still continued to talk on the phone at least once a month during this time, and even hung out a few times when we were both back visiting our home area.

A little over five months ago my g/f and I had an incredibly nasty breakup. We were both incredibly hurt, and it's only in the last two weeks that I finally feel that I am sufficiently "over" her. During this time, my ex (the first one) and I started talking on the phone for once or twice a week. She called me regularly to check up on me and make sure I wasn't going to hurt myself, and to just let me "dump" on her. She was still with another b/f. Through this time I feel that we developed an emotional connection again. She knows me better than anybody I know, and just accepts me for who I am. She's one of two people that I feel that I can be completely honest with and she won't judge me.

She and her b/f broke up near the end of December/beginning of January, and slowly I realized I felt that I was beginning to fall for her again. We still talk on the phone at least 1 or 2 times a week for 1 1/2-2 hours at a time, and also chat online once or twice a week, and I really think I would like to try a relationship with her again. The problem (besides the distance) is that she is carrying her ex-bf's child.

I'm just not sure how to handle this situation. I've never dated anyone who has a child, or was pregnant. I definitely feel that there is "something" there, and it seems somewhat reciprocated, but I'm not sure what to do about it, or if I should do anything. I highly value or friendship, and would hate for it to end or become awkward because I made the wrong move. I also realize that she is pregnant, and a relationship would only cause added stress, and I don't want to burden her. I am going to spend my spring break with her in a month, and keep thinking maybe "something" will happen then. Does anyone have any advice?

[Cbrider]

I think you're playing with fire here to be honest. If she's carrying his child shes going to probably have some attachment to him. I think she would need more time to get stuff straightened out.

Thats how I would approach it, thats just A LOT of stuff shes bringing with her.