Strange friend

[Ashbee]

my s/o has an older brother at 25. This brother has been involved with a 52 year old man (emotinally and sexually) sick i know.The 52 year old is a complete physco and makes people feel sorry for him and drags them under his control. my s/o`s brother moved away to spain this week (we are in scotland)and this older man actually booked flights and went away to a taxi to get on this flight and go find him even though he knows my s/os brother wants NOTHING to do with him. Now that my s/os brother has gone, he seems to be latching on to my s/o. but the thing is he stays over at his house and everything and my s/o says he just goes down when he is upset b/c he is good to talk to. I really dont feel comfortable with him going down but when i say it my s/o just says that he is his friend and hes going to keep seeing him. am i wrong for not wanting him to be friends with him? my s/o is only 22 years of age and is very vunreable himself.

[Ashbee]

no one have any advice or thoughts?

[Gigabitch]

I require clarification. What does it mean to "go down"? To me, it sounds like this 52 year old man is going over to your boyfriend's house and giving him blowjobs.

Anyway, it's none of your business and your bf is going to be pissed at you if you try to tell him what to do.

[Ashbee]

going down to means going to this 52 year olds house. i think it is my business, he is my partner of 2 years and hanging about with a 52year old pervert obviously worries me.im not telling him what to do, all im asking is if its wrong of me to not want him to hang around with this nutter.

[Gigabitch]

Well, maybe your opinion that he is a pervert needs some revision. He was with a 25 year old, not a 5 year old. That doesn't make him a pervert. If you think he's perverted just because he's gay, you have a bias that your bf clearly doesn't share. Either get over it or get ready for some serious relationship problems.

[Ashbee]

of course i dont think he is a pervert because he is gay. i think he is a pervert because he is known around town and other towns that he prays on young boys. He talks about his bad childhood about being raped by his fathers friends and makes people feel sorry for him and then he turns physco. all im worried about is if he does this to my boyfriend as he is blind to him because he has some emotional problems himself.

[vashti]

I think the way you describe him makes him sound kind of creepy, but I don't think you can (or should) interfere beyond telling your BF ONCE you think the man is creepy, and you don't want him around you. (Doing more than that will breed resentment in your BF.)

Personally, I am wondering what you could possibly have in common with a guy that succombs to creepy older men.

[Mish]

Just to clarify:

Your bf's brother is in a relationship with a 52 year old man. Your bf's brother gets depressed and you bf goes to the 52 year old's house to visit him. You fear that the 52 year old man may seduce your bf as well.

True or False?