Looking for some advice...please??!

[TattooedLAdy]

Ok here's my story, when i was in highschool i had a MAJOR crush on this boy who didn't know i existed, long story short, two years after high school, we end up dating for about a year and a half years. It was magical for the first 6 months but then things started to change, bla bla bla we ended up breaking up. Then two years later getting back together physically for a brief time before i realized the reasons for us breaking up were still present. But the passion and love between us was SOOO strong.
Ok present day i'm in an awesome committed relationship with the most amazing man for almost 3 years now. We live together and everything is great. But one of my passions is tattoos, and my pre mentioned ex has become one of the area's top tattooers and has offered to tattoo me at an insane price and i'm dying to get some work done and money is soooo tight. Since emailing my ex about tattooing, i've had dreams about him every single night and there is a part of me that still yearns for the passionate connection we had. Although i would NEVER EVER cheat, i'm wondering if it's wrong of me to get tattooed by him if i still have some remaining feelings? I'm super happy in my relationship and my boyfriend is a little uncomfortable about it. Am i being selfish? But let me mention that my boyfriend IS going to miami beach next week with all his boys and I'm uncomfortable with that,,,but i trust him. sooo are we even?

[Mish]

i'm wondering if it's wrong of me to get tattooed by him if i still have some remaining feelings?

Ofcourse it's wrong and you know it, otherwise you wouldn't be asking the question. You know by going there you are putting your relationship at risk. Don't do it.

But let me mention that my boyfriend IS going to miami beach next week with all his boys and I'm uncomfortable with that,,,but i trust him. sooo are we even?

I don't understand how the above has to do with anything. You trust him, he's going to Miami with friends, you trust nothing will happen which is a lot more than you can say for what may happen with your ex encounter. Ofcourse you are NOT even. Find another parlor with a different tattooist, otherwise you are guilty.

[TattooedLAdy]

yea but i said i would never ever ever cheat and i mean that. I would never do anything inappropriate to disrespect my bf. I'm just saying that it might make me feel some kinda way seeing my ex again remember the good times but i would never want to go back or anything. and i'm not a cheater.

[Mish]

yea but i said i would never ever ever cheat and i mean that. I would never do anything inappropriate to disrespect my bf.

Then don't see your ex. It's wrong for you to see him when you still have feelings for him and when you are inside of a relationship.

I could go as far as say that you are cheating just by seeing him in your current state.

[carl1222]

You still have feelings for Mr. Tattoo and you are tickling the tail of a sleeping dragon by saying "I would never ever cheat."

As to your bf's Miami trip ... is he going there to meet with an ex girlfriend for whom he still has feelings? If not, there is no comparison.

just out of curiosity ... what body part are you being tattoed on? Shoulder? Breast? Ankle? Butt? Arm? Pu**y???

Carl.

[TattooedLAdy]

tattooed on my lower back. Well i know in my heart that nothing will happen and if anything it will just remind me more of why i don't want to be with him. And no my bf is not going to miami to meet up with an ex BUT he is going down there for the music confer. which is nothing but drunk hot party girls dancing around in bikini's sweatin on him b/c he's a well known dj. so it's not like i don't have something to feel weird about.
i know i asked for advice and now i'm trying to talk myself and you guys into what i want to hear. Believe me, i see this. But really i just plan to get my tattoo and leave. Yes i still find him attractive but so what, i would never eff up what i have.